Mid 50s feel and look mid 70s ...... not in a good way!

[Zazu44]

Ok so have been through menopause -5 yrs no periods, and also a total hysterectomy a few months ago, but I've put on at least 2 1/2 stones over the last few years, have crap skin, hair and generally feel and look rubbish. Doesn't help that partner likes me size 10, slim and looking good!! ( that's another story).
Finding it so hard to lose weight and feel good about myself, anyone have any advice?

Be kind to yourself for starters. The menopause can hit hard! I joined a gym on a 3 month trial and had a go at various classes there. I found 3 that I thoroughly enjoyed and attend them religiously. I don't always feel like going but feel fab once I get there and get going. Drink more water, eat more fruit and try on clothes that you like in shops, whether you think you suit them or not. Sometimes you'll be surprised by what looks good on you. Outwardly you may look different but you're still you. ☺

Thanks for those kind words funmummy48 life is pretty stressful and home/relationship is quite crap at the moment ( due to my weight). I will try to be kind to myself a bit more 😊

I respectfully suggest that if your weight is so important to your partner then they are not being very supportive. Is this the case?
Be kind to yourself - make one change to begin with and stick to it.
Buy nice clothes as pp suggested. Nice haircut and a good conditioning treatment. Do your nails or get them done. If you feel good about yourself you’re more likely to look after you.

The way we feel about ourselves is the way we look! Our attitude and our psychology plays a huge role! Don’t give up! :)

I think you're all talking massive sense. OH is sort of supportive, I drive him crazy at my lack of sticking to something, he is very focused.
I think making small changes is a good way to start and being kind to myself.
Thanks 🌸

Have you been offered HRT after your op? Some drs think it's not necessary if they remove ovaries in your 50 (assume yours were when you say 'total'?) so if they have not discussed this, please ask.

Can anyone relate? I'm.45 been off the combined pill for over a year took 6 months for periods to.come back and they are so irregular cycles of 21 days then 40 days then 35 then 24 and so on the latest this time is v heavy period days 1 2 and 3 hardly anything 456 and then day 7 backache and every time I go for a wee and wipe there is clear mucus with brownish blood in it but hardly anything on pad ? is this hormones fluctuations going all over the place ? had smear test last year and all clear.

biscuitboo sounds like you’re peri-menopausal to me.

zazu44 bodies are made in the kitchen. Exercise will help you tone up and boost your metabolism but you cant out-exercise a bad diet so look at something like Joe Wicks’ plan or Jillian Michaels 30 day shred. Lose the carbs as they are whats preventing you from sticking to a diet (because of hunger & cravings).

Then go and see your GP and ask for HRT. Works wonders.

OP if you have put on a lot of weight and continue to do so, nothing to do with your partner and looks - but is better for your health to try to lose this and keep to within healthy BMI range. This will help you feel better about yourself too! Also have you had your thyroid checked - putting on weight without over-eating can result from under-active thyroid but you would have other symptoms of debilitating tiredness/fatigue and feeling cold although these symptoms can get mixed up with menopause symptoms.

And yes yes yes to HRT!