At 45 I'm starting to see the signs .. night sweats, missed periods and anxiety creeping in. I can go months without a period then bang out of the blue I have swollen breast and spotting.. sometimes lasts 2/3 days, sometimes more! I feel like a mess.. the night sweats seem to come and go, as does the anxiety. I had children late in life, the last thing they need is a manic mummy .. would really appreciate any suggestions you may have. It seems a bit of a taboo subject unless your 'that age' what is that age.. in my case 45!