Do you consider yourself stupid?

[ichino]

I've always thought I'm not a genius by any means, but probably a bit above average intelligence, but it occurs to me that most people think of themselves that way and there's a good chance we're deluded!

50% of us must be less intelligent than average. Do the 50% know?

I find that people normally manage to find a reason outside of themselves (poor opportunities, bad family, bad school, bad health etc) for any low levels of accomplishment. Not many people will say they just weren't capable of better, even with all the help in the world.

So, do you consider yourself a thicko? Does anyone?

I’ve realised recently that I’m not as smart as I thought I was

I was always academically intelligent and did well with my studies and career. However, with age and maturity I've realised how I totally lacked emotional intelligence my whole life. And how debilitating this has been. It's only in recent years that I feel like I am more self aware and realise what I have lacked in my younger years.

The most difficult aspect is seeing the same lack of emotional intelligence in my eldest and youngest DCs. It's definitely something that they've inherited from me and their dad (we're both very similar in that respect). If ever I try to discuss emotions and help them to regulate or communicate theirs I'm mostly met with a grunt! Saying this, middle child is the opposite to the rest of us - very mature and aware of herself and those around her. She navigates social situations so well. If I didn't give birth to her I would swear she was adopted!

How are you measuring intelligence?

It's a good question. I guess I mean critical thinking skills.