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Is this a suicide threat?

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bettyboo26 · 27/03/2009 07:24

Recieved this text from ExH at 2am this morning-

I apologise for it being so late but I can't take this anymore.You're my wife and when I said forever I meant it so if you dont love me please say and I will go.

WTF!!!!
Haven't replied but not really sure what to do. I dont love him and despise him for how he has treated me in the past.
I have always remained civil for DS's sake but have made it very clear (or so I thought) that I would never, ever consider getting back with him.

Adice anyone............?

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giraffescantdancethetango · 27/03/2009 07:39

It sounds like a guilt inducing text. My best friends dad tried to commit suicide last week thankfully hes in intensive care now - and has had a liver transplant so fingers crossed, but he didnt threaten anything, no mention of it before, he was just so low he really believed he was doing what was best for everyone and he just took them, no attention seeking texts before.

If he continues this I personally would send him a text with the number of samaritons and leave it at that. Then you dont feel as guilty as you have pointed him inb the direction of help but you are not getting dragged in to discussions - because even if he is genuinely suicidal you are not qualified to deal with it and he needs to get himself professional help. However it does seem a very attention seeking message designed to guilt trip you.

Holly23 · 27/03/2009 08:21

My ExH did this as well, sent quite a few texts with the same kind of theme. All intended to make me feel guilty, and he was the victim. You could send him the Samaritans phone no, however if he sends you anymore then just ignore them. Tbh he will keep trying to do this if he feels he has alarmed you in some way.

giraffescantdancethetango · 27/03/2009 08:25

If he continues to do this you could always phone your local police station and raise concern for his safety.

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bettyboo26 · 27/03/2009 08:41

Thanks for replying gcdtt and Holly.
If I even reply, he will think he has bothered me and therefore that I still love him etc, etc.
This is just so typical of him. He's done the whole don't give a shit tactic, begging, pleading, threatening. Suppose this is just next on the list(I hope).
How long will it take before he realises I mean what I say?
We split up for a short time when I was pregnant and I think he thinks its just the same!!!(sooooooooooooooo not!!!)

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/03/2009 11:01

this is all mind games stuff
any response from you will make him feel that you might be softening and he poss.stands a chance
i'd ignore if i were you

smartiejake · 27/03/2009 11:24

OK so he said "forever" in church.

Did he also keep his promise to "love honour and cherish?"

From what you have said it would seem not.

Don't let him blackmail you.

Ignore, ignore, ignore

MeNmyGirl · 27/03/2009 13:05

Hi, i dont think u should just dismiss this,...just incase....

What if you ignore and this is serious??? Only you know him and what hes like and how his life is etcetc,...would he do something like this????

I prob would reply and deal with consqeunces after rather then ignoring incase its real. Perhaps you could tell us more,..does he see ds etc

ElenorRigby · 27/03/2009 13:10

I agree with giraffe maybe send a text sympathising with the ex and point him in the direction of the Samaritans.

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bettyboo26 · 28/03/2009 10:55

Thanks for the replies Ladies.
ExH has just been to collect DS!
Didn't text him back yesterday but checked on the joint account (on-line banking) and noticed he'd got cash back in a couple of bars on Thursday night!!!
Needless to say, he was obviously drunk!!!
So glad I didn't txt him back. I am not responsible for HIS actions!(He spent years saying I was!!!)
Funnily enough, he didn't mention the late night text!
Just wondered, has anyone been in a simular situation and how long did it take for ex to accept the relationship was over.
Thanks again.

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MANATEEequineOHARA · 28/03/2009 11:25

Glad that was sorted, Yes I have been, and still am to some extent, in a similar situation, over 2 years after seperating!

He threatened to kill himself, and told me all about how he was standing on the platform ready to jump in front of a train. Well he can't have been that serious, cos he is still alive. It is emotional blackmail and really rather low.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/03/2009 11:27

Betty how long is a piece of string?
you'll get lots of these,oh and sad voice mails too
and he'll prob.still say things even when you are divorced
his problem not yours
enjoy moving on and getting on with life

solidgoldbrass · 29/03/2009 10:40

OH, whining losers like this are never obliging enough to actually kill themselves. Just ignore any such texts, especially late night ones.

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