Access issue - urgent advice needed

[Honeymum]

I have a friend who has recently reached agreement with an ex over access to their toddler. Visits are fortnightly with the ex-DH permitted to take the child out of town (some 60 miles away)every other visit. This is a recent agreement reached in court at some cost to my friend. The couple ended up in court after the father had disappeared from the child's life, unannounced, for 7 months. The first contact between them was a court summons from the father.

The agreement seems to suit both parties, though my friend is apprehensive. This arrangement has yet to start since directly following the court appearance my friend went on a previously planned long-haul visit to family over Christmas (which the ex objected to and again they ended up in court).

My question concerns the following: the first visit under the new arrangement is due this weekend. Under the court order the ex should be able to take the child to his home (60 miles away). My friend is saying that she doesn't think this is reasonable given the fact that the toddler hasn't seen ex-DH for 6 weeks. He is insisting on taking the child anyway. What is the worst that can happen if my friend, on this occasion only, refuses to allow the ex to take the child away (but instead says he can have unsupervised access here)?

Thanks

I'm new here but a little confused by how honeymum seems to have become Doublesad...but hey ho....

There are always two sides to every story. In this case it actually doesn't matter. There is a court order issued. They are legally obliged to stick to it (unless they both agree otherwise). If they don't like it, go back to court.

I hate it when people feel they can ignore court orders just because they have a different opinion.

Whoops - I changed my name temporarily for another thread! Sorry to confuse, everyone!