Hi Lp's,
I'm about to embark on children's proceedings with my ex.
As a result of horrific DV which our DD was made subject to and suffered herself physically and psychologically, we were assisted by SS in fleeing. Ex p has been violent since I became pregnant with each assault intensifying. Police were called upwards of 10 times to the former family home, I've dealt with SS and child protection. I self referred to a DV agency who referred us to MARAC where we were assesed as high risk. Ex is a violent and abusive narc. He has abused our daughter also and now as a result of fleeing SS ordered that contact stop. Ex also has a history of stalking and harassing ex partners and their children. As we've fled to a location that's confidential he is never permitted to know where we live and where our daughter goes to nursery.
I suppose what I'm saying is I'm really scared, the SW has assured me on many occasions that due to the severity of the abuse towards our daughter he will never ever have overnight contact.. She said at best he is looking at one hour in a contact center once a fortnight. I'm really scared he will get direct contact because he will ruin our daughters life and use her to control and manipulate me and he will also poison her. I'm due to speak to CAFCASS next week and I'm so scared they'll be biased and side with him. In typical abuser style he's now saying I'm the violent abuser and I abuse our daughter supposedly :( he's put an application into the Family Court for permanent residency of our daughter.
I'm genuinely scared.
My solicitor has advised me we will be pushing for interim indirect contact at the first hearing due to the safeguarding risks and contact puts us at risk of being stalked and our address being revealed.
What am I looking at long term.. Can anyone advise on their experiences in family court with an abusive ex and what contact was awarded to them.
It's such a horrible feeling.
Our daughter is so happy and settled and more importantly safe.. For the first time in her life she is living in an abuse free household.