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Anyone want to High five me?!!!

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Sweetsecret · 08/08/2015 10:57

Hi everyone!
This is probably absolutely rediculous, but I kind of feel proud of myself.
My H left me and the kids four months ago, and today I turfed my garden while looking after the kids ALL BY MYSELF! It sounds like a rediculous thing to be proud of, but it made me think pah! I don't need a man to help me with the hard jobs, I can do it!
Have spent the last few months wondering how the hell I am going to manage alone, and now I think I might be okay.Grin

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redannie118 · 08/08/2015 10:59

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Candycoco · 08/08/2015 11:22

Well done! That's brilliant. I hate doing 'man jobs' but feel really proud of myself afterwards too. Grin

daisyJ123 · 08/08/2015 13:38

Onwards & upwards!
Nice one, lady!

Momzilla82 · 08/08/2015 13:40

That's fantastic. Well done you! Flowers and thirst quenching Wine

meglet · 08/08/2015 13:43

you deserve a high five Smile .

that's impressive work!

AdoraBell · 08/08/2015 13:53

Bloody Well done. It's not so much the doing of a "man" Job as the realisation that you do not need a person of the oposite sex in order To función.

Wine and celebratery Cake Grin

ArseForElbow · 08/08/2015 13:55

Well done. I'm a sinegle parent too and feel quite proud that out of all my neighbours my garden is the only one with the grass cut front and back. It's the silly little things that make me smile. Smile

TheCowThatLaughs · 08/08/2015 13:56

Wow well done op! Now you can relax a bit and admire the results

NickiFury · 08/08/2015 13:57

Grin Brilliant.

I'm taking my kids abroad in a month or two, long haul. I'm going to be doing all the driving and everything all by myself. We've travelled abroad before but in a safe way, no driving, family members nearby, this time it's just us Smile

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Sweetsecret · 08/08/2015 17:07

Thanks everyone! I celebrated with a big fat glass of wine and a slice of cake! hope you have a fab holiday Nicki!Smile

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Floundering · 08/08/2015 17:11

Well done SS!

Don't forget to water it well if it doesn't rain!!

Enjoy your Wine

twirlypoo · 08/08/2015 17:13

Well done! I love it when I manage things like that - it makes me feel like super woman Grin

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Sweetsecret · 08/08/2015 18:25

floundering! I feel like I am a first time parent with regards to this new lawn! Ha ha! I am checking on it constantly, just about to water it now the sun is off it. it's hard work this gardening malarkey!Grin

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enderwoman · 08/08/2015 18:39

High Five Time for a Wineafter all that hard work Grin

starlight2007 · 08/08/2015 19:03

A big high five here..I remember my Ex walking out when my DS was a baby..I had been asking him to fix baby gym for weeks..I decied I would fix it...It took me 4 hours and was up till midnight doing it when I had a very wakeful BF baby but remember firstly wishing I had found something easier to prove a point with but then incredibly proud..

Well done..To make sure you reward yourself whether a glass of wine or something else you would prefer

Wholovesfoodprogrammes · 08/08/2015 19:21

Well done and a massive high 5. You deserve a huge glass of wine tonight ..... whilst admiring your lawn.

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Sweetsecret · 09/08/2015 09:39

thanks everyone. It is the little things that make a huge difference, I went down to London with my 5 year old for a wedding a few weeks ago, then we had a day out going around London the next day. I was so nervous about doing the tube on my own with my DD, but was so chuffed with myself for doing it all and we had a lovely time.
it's these little things that shows me I CAN do these things alone, I may even do a holiday next summer if I can afford it.Smile

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ChishandFips33 · 09/08/2015 09:52

Absolutely well done!!! Here's more Wine Cake
We turfed ours a while back and I wouldn't like to think I did it on my own or had the kids to look after

FuckOffPeppa · 09/08/2015 10:01

You're a superwoman!

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Sweetsecret · 09/08/2015 11:31

Thanks! you should've seen the state of us all by the end of it though, my DS was in heaven he stripped down to his nappy and just played in the top soil! we were covered in it and god knows what else! still trying to clean the bath! Smile

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ChishandFips33 · 09/08/2015 12:37

Apparently there's actually scientific reasons why playing in mud is good for you - something to do with the chemical your brain releases when playing with it iirc

Sounds like you need a mud kitchen

ChishandFips33 · 09/08/2015 12:39

The science behind mud play

Sending another high 5 for your fab parenting in letting your little one explore so freely - lots of learning and brain connections will have developed that day - you are a fab mum!!

WallyBantersJunkBox · 09/08/2015 12:41

Yay! You should be very proud of yourself. Grin

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Sweetsecret · 09/08/2015 23:16

Ah thanks everyone that's very kind.
I would love a mud kitchen my garden isn't big enough, but my DS does have a large plant pot full of soil that I let him dig in and fill with water, make mud pies etc.
He loves it! I have to intercept him before he runs it all through the house though! Ha! Smile

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giantpurplepeopleeater · 11/08/2015 11:46

HIGH FIVES*

Well done. I've been on my own for just over 18 months now, and I'm always surprised by how much I can do by myself! And how many new things I've learnt!