Am I being unfair re contact?

[willthiseverbloodystop]

So, abusive ex. He is doing a perp course. He has to to,have supervised contact which my parents are facilitating. Social services recommend this should happen until end of course in autumn. Verbally SS have said it's up to me though and I have talked to them about allowing unsupervised in summer. My parents are away this weekend so he can't see my dd then, and next weekend she has various parties so no real time then, although he can have dinner with her at my parents. He just rang me and said I was being selfish and it was no fun having dinner with her with my folks there . I pointed out he caused this and hung up. Am I being unfair? He's done a handful of sessions so not massively into course and I m furious at his ingratitude to my parents.

No you are not been unreasonable.I would stand back from the unsupervised in summer...Sounds at the moment like he has got nothing from the course so far as nothing is still his fault.

I Used to also hang up on my now EXh when conversations went like this generally as there was no point trying to reason and help him understand.

goodness no. also go t a whiny ex. he was intimidating in my flat (i have been supervising him) so I banned him from the flat. he has whined about not seeing the children much now. he does not turn up when it is available.