time you stood on your own two feet....!!!

[onanotherday]

Just needed to have a moan...sbxh said this on the phone today when I asked for some money!! Wtf...I've helped him with each my crisis...just been diagnosed with BPD. Now on benefits having had to leave a good job...pattern. No manternance for 6 months...I'm so behind in rent have just been given notice to leave. Both DC suffering from anxiety. Just don't know where to turn, no RL help. Thanks for listening.

They're his kids too, I'm assuming? If so, keep reminding him of that. He's responsible for more than just the shag that created them.

Sorry.. I am not sure...is it EXh that has just been diagnosed ? If he is on benefits you won't be getting backdated money any time soon..

My Ex has BPD.. I am well aware of the nature , nuture debate and have made sure things were very stable for my DC.

You need CAB for housing advise as you are unlikely to be eligible for housing as you are classed as having making yourself homeless.

you need to work out your finances without taking Ex' s possible money into account. Any money you do get needs to be used for the luxury stuff as it is likely to continue in this same pattern.

Re children anxiety..Have you been to GP or spoke to the school about it.