Am a lp to a 17 month old dd. Her father dumped me when I told him I was pregnant and I didn't see or hear from him until dd was born. He met her when she was 6 months old, but hasn't seen her since.
Yesterday at a baby centre I saw his ex and the mother of his older 26 year old daughter. Didn't realise she ran the centre, but heard other mothers call her name and realised who she was.
Waited until we were alone and asked her if she was his ex and the mother of his daughter. Then told her dd was his child. She didn't know about dd.
She said the dd was family and that she'd like her to be a part of her family and come to functions etc.
As we left she said to dd 'say bye to auntie'.
It was all a bit much and I feel totally overwhelmed by it all.
Sorry this post is long, I'd really appreciate some advice.
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solitudehappiness · 01/11/2014 08:21
It all just seems to be a bit overwhelming. His daughter knew about my dd since she was born and hasn't made any effort to contact me. This is causing me lots of confusion and if I'm honest, anger. Dd's father doesn't have anything to so with his dd's family. His ex doesn't speak too kindly about him.
I've been thinking about this since I saw her yesterday. Am I being mean to my dd if I decide not to keep in touch? Do I take up the offer of contacting her/friending her on Facebook? Will her dd be hostile towards me? How would dd's feel about me being in contact?
Oh dear 
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