pregnant and lost

[traceybaybee]

I have been seeing a guy in a friends with benefits scenario for 3yrs which has suited us well however ive recently found out im pregnant and its changed everything. He has told me to have an abortion and if i have the baby he wont have anything to do with us. However he has asked if he can come to my first midwife appt on monday, his motives however are suspicious to me. Im 22 and im terrified i will be a bad mum to my baby since im on my own

Selfish git he is. You do whats right for you and take his feelings out of the equation. He's lost the right to have a say. You have this baby hun sounds like you will be doing it alone. If you're happy with that then go ahead. Its hard work but reaps great rewards. If you aren't ready to be a mum then consider your options. Being on your own does not make you a bad mum x

I couldnt bear having an abortion especially after seeing the heartache my sister went through when she had one a few years ago. My family are there to support me which means the world to me. So now its going to be me nacho (my dog) and baba when they come along. Fingers crossed we will manage :) x

You will I promise. There is always a way x

:) thank you xx

You will manage if thats what you want. A lot of people in couples tell me I couldn't be a single parent but in reality it wasn't my plan but what am I going to do give up my DS because his Dad can't be arsed.. Means he needs me more.

Just trust your own judgement but take support where it is offered

I know being a parent is going to be the hardest thing ive ever done yes circumstances are far from ideal but ive just got to make the best of them xx

It is hard but also the most rewarding.

Im a believer in everything happens for a reason so its like this was meant to be xx