Does your ex- contribute to university maintenance?

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Posted in chat about this but that topic moves too fast!

I am about to approach my ex about the parental contribution.

Grants and loans all applied for successfully on the basis of my income and circumstances. There is a balance to pay. I think it would be fair if we both contributed, but ex has never asked me about any of this. Not sure he's expecting to contribute anything.

There are 3 children, 2 still in school. Eldest has had a gap year and is off to uni in September. Ex stopped paying child support for this child when he left school last year (CSA automatically made the adjustment).

So what would be a reasonable suggestion? What do others do?

I'd be encouraging my children to talk to their dad about it directly as that's what I was expected to do with my parents. Neither of my parents are supporting me through university, I don't think it's something a child should expect.

My son is a proud boy and is unlikely to ask his dad.

I, on the other hand, would not dream of not supporting my boy, within reason. He won't be getting any more than the figure recommended by the university.

We had this last year, there was a gap of several thousand pounds of what his student loan would cover versus his accommodation costs of £150 per week for halls. His dad and I split the difference between us, despite his dad earning 3 times what I do