what rights does parental responsibilty give you??

[sanchpanch]

ex has just bought dd back and wants us to re register her birth so he is on the birth certificate, and then he can apply for parental responsibility order, what will this give him that he hasnt already got, he sees her one day a week and doesnt want more contact, and we have a financial arrangement between ourselves,

i am a bit worried he has a different motive!

Go to www.family-solicitors.co.uk/parental_order.htm for info. He doesn't need to be on the birth certificate as this is a court order, however you can agree a parental responsibility agreement out of court, which is more of a contract. A PR Order only means you have to keep him informed with regards to your childs education, health, welfare etc & he can be involved with these decisions.

Do you get on? I have a friend who is being very nice to his ex, buying everything pre-birth etc to give weight to obtaining a PRO & hopefully custody

thanks for replying, we dont really get on although we have very little to do with each other he picks dd up from nursery and drops her back there the next morning, so i never see him but this today has come as a bit of a shock as things have been ticking along nicely!
he has been told he needs to be on the birth certificate to then apply for parental responsibility, and then a contact order.
i am just not sure why he is doing this if he isn't going to gain any more than he has already

If he isn't on the birth cert and something happens to you, he has no rights over your dd.

If he has parental responsibility he has a claim for custody in your absence.

Also at the moment he has nothing to stop you leaving the country with dd.

I think parental responsibility would affect this 2.
HTH

Are you married? Ultimately even with parental responsibility and being on the birth certificate, I'm sure the rules are theat he would not be entitled to make any major decisions re healthcare etc without you presnet. I'm with my lo's father but we aren't married and right now if lo was rushed to hospital (touching wood) by dp, the doctors could not make a decision on surgery etc without my permission regardless of the fact that lo shares my dp's last name and he is on the birth cert etc etc. Defo get some advice on the implications both what he is able to do and what he won't. Hope it works out all fine.

maybe he wants to have her more,does he have overnight stays.My sister in law was going through a messy divorce.she had the girls as he went off with another woman while she was pregnant,came back a year later,and then demanded all rights,he even took them when she was in hospital and wouldnt hand them back,id say just be careful as he might have other motives,once he has parental rights,he could put in to have her so many days and nights a week..Like shared parenting..

My dh has PR sanchpanch and he wasn't on his dd's birth certificate. If you are in agreement to him having it then I think all it involves is getting the relevant paperwork completed. If you weren't in agreement, your x could apply to the Court to be granted it.

PR for my dh it means that he should be involved in decisions such as which school dsd attends and which religion she follows. It also means that if dsd is staying with us and falls ill dh can sign for any medical treatment that she might need (eg an operation or stitches) without having to wait for her mum to drive over 80 miles to do so. Dh still has to have his x's permission for us to take dsd abroad, but her mum can take her abroad for up to a month without dh's permission.

Dh has found it helpful because it means he has been able to contact dsd's doctors and schools directly. He has been able to find out about medication that dsd has been on and get sent school reports, invites to parents' evenings, sports days, things like that.

Your x doesn't need to have pr to apply for a court order. Dh didn't, the pr was sorted out at the same time as the contact order. However, your x would only need to apply for a contact order if you were refusing to allow your dd to see him, or if he wanted to see her more and you didn't want him to.