I'm so seething tonight. Been separated from ex for 3 yrs and we have 3 sons together. He hasn't paid maintenance for at least 2 years and as far as I know, doesn't work.
So after driving for 5 hours and it being the first time he has seen the boys in a month the first thing he did when we arrived was ask me for money!!! He actually expected me to get back in the car and drive to a cashpoint as he claimed he had no money for food (I was exhausted from driving and refused).
I'm so pissed off, he has known for a week we were coming so why couldn't he make sure he had food for when his children arrived. I gave him all the cash I had on me (£2.50) but he said if I don't drop off some money tomorrow then he refuses to have them.
I know I should tell him where to stick it but it's so unfair on the boys to travel all that way and spend just a few hours with him. Also, it puts me in a shitty situation where i can't leave them without food but don't want to give him a penny when I pay for everything for our children as it is.
I just can't get over what a selfish, feckless idiot I married. He said he's looking for a job but I've been hearing the same BS excuses for years. Sorry for the rant, he just never fails to amaze me with his utter twattiness!! I work my arse off and still struggle to make ends meet. He never asks if they need anything, it's like he thinks it's completely my responsibility to do everything for the children he helped produce.
I literally cannot reason with this man as he is so narcissistic that he simply cannot see what a deadbeat dad he is. Grrrrr!!!