...has been this way for 4 years ..& now keeps changing his mind.re contact
eg last two trips to his have ended with 'im never seeing you two again ( dc is 2.5 yrs ) uses blackmail to keep control when he can; eg im moving back in but only if we have a relationship otherwise im gone ; and no help at all of any kind ( is that supposed to be a choice?) ;
i hung on in neutral space, cool but accomadating him groping me ( eurgh ) and irritating us both, trying to keep everything ticking over on our visits as we are very isolated- moved away from any freinds/ family/ familiarity of old home to rural village, and dont drive,
anyway. finally had enough. he turned up today, having told me last week i/ my family/ freinds were all shite, and that his family think im just using him , with lots of stuff as if he was moving back in; we only agreed on a few nights to see dc a week.i flipped, and he left.he is about to start a well paid job & think he thought that would change everything. i cant have him back as he's emotionally abusive, has a controlled drink problem, is a mysoginist, & doesnt really like me.! how can i ensure this doesnt continue as he can still just 'turn up'.