HO ALL ;)x..hope u are all well...im in a muddle and i realy odnt know what to do...fot those of u who dont kbnow me plz look at my last 2 threads..LOST,,CONFUSED...ok right x has got solictors involved...he has not seen baby j since he was 10 weeks old j is 8 months now...as u are aware x ha sput me through so much crap for the last yr and half...and his family...ok well he has got contatc at a contact center..every other saturday for 45 mins...my solictor has picked a center which is miles away from me as she wants to see if he will put in the effort,,he couldnt put the effort in even when i live upstairs from his mother the wicked witch of the block..so i cant see him bothering...now for me to get there i have 2 get 2 buses...n i have 2 be there by 10am..i dont know how im going to do it but i will..i do have concerns about the contact center..it isnt a very nice place i think for any family to go to..but i agree if it makes a situation easier then so be it...he has done nothing for j j doesnt even know him..i really dont want to be doing all this...all this 4 45 mins ...x name isnt on birth cert...he was never nasty 2 baby always abusive to me..as your all aware ive alot of other issues in my life that ive 2 deal with that still arent resolved..ive now got post natal depression..and getting councilling for all the shit they have put me through..i dont think im up 2 all of this...can i refuse to do it..i know a child should know both parents..but all x has done is abuse me verbally...n threatend me all the time..he has made threats b4 that he would kill me n the baby, he said that all 2 me when i was pregnant with j..and once after he was born he was areested for it ..plz help im very messed up x