hi i am new but need to get some sensible answers.
I have been with my bf for 9 years we have 3 kids together. its never been great between us but for the last 2 years its been absolutely shit.
He keeps going out drinking and taking drugs but lately he has started being really secretive with his phone. it is literally glued to his hand. every time I walk past him he puts it down so I cant see what his doing and if he leaves it in the room without realising he always quickly runs back and gets it. he also clears his phone of web history, calls and text. I wouldn't be so bothered but he has cheated on me before the night I was having to give birth to our premature baby!! His also started to be really nasty and vindictive calling me slag, fat, ugly waddler, whore ect and its really getting me back like I know I'm not a size 8 before but you shouldn't disrespect me. also everytime I tell him to leave he tells me I am a bad mum and his going to take the kids from me and when I tell him he cant he tells me he can take me through court and get them off me because I smoke cigarettes in the kitchen, even though my children are not allowed in the kitchen whatsoever. he also says he will get them a new no1 mummy. can he do that?? He is also getting my children to call me name like fatty, bad mum and I just don't know what to do anymore I am physically and emotionally drained with this relationship but don't want to lose my kids they are my world . I definitely think his cheating and need some advice :'(
sorry to rant and rave any help is very much appriciated