Nearly the end. What will it be like? My OH.

[earlystreetlight]

NCFT. My DH has terminal cancer. He is having end of life care at home.

We have a hospital bed, Marie Curie carers and a Distrct Nurse and a Pallative Care Nurse visiting. He has a syringe drive for his medication. He is having morphine, anti sickness, anti mucus medication. I feel very grateful for the help we are receiving.

The end is near now. He hasn't eaten for a week or so and is refusing drinks now.

Since yesterday it has been hard to understand what he is saying. His breathing is laboured. He keeps reaching out with his hands. I am lying next to him and he mumbles but I can't make it out.

Can you tell me about the end of life?

So very sorry. Look after yourself xx

So very sorry for your loss xx

So sorry op

I'm so sorry earlystreetlight - much love to you and the DCs. May your lovely husband rest in peace.

To love and be loved is the greatest gift and also the greatest legacy. God bless you and your family at this special time when your loved one found peace.

OP, so sorry for your profound loss. Wishing you and your dc much peace and strength

so sorry Early.

sending best wishes for you and your family

I'm so sorry

Just wanted to add my condolences to you and your family earlystreetlight

I’m so sorry

I am so sorry.

I'm sorry for your loss Early

Sorry for your loss. So glad you were with him and your DC.

I'm very sorry for the loss of your DH op . Sending you and your DC strength.

Op I'm so sorry for your loss & glad it was a peaceful passing.

My dm is in late stages of cancer & id seen that post about doing nothing on fb & it really resonated with me

Wishing you strength to get through the coming days x

Love and thoughts xx

So sorry for your loss, and for everyone elses'.

I'm not in this position but it was so informative to read I had no idea what happened and will be better placed to help/deal with this situation when I am in it.
I really struggled when my Grandma passed and didn't know how to behave/react, she was in a hospice, I was terrified that she would pass when I was alone with her and had no idea what to do in that circumstance. I was young but an adult with a small child, I just hadn't had any experience of death until then. No one explained and truthfully I was terrified to ask. In the end my Grandad was with her and she passed peacefully.

As a PP said earlier its something people should know about to prepare them.

Sending love and thoughts to you and your children

So very sorry for your loss, earlystreetlight, but glad for you that you were with your DH at the end. It is a privilege to be with the dying as they go. That, and its peacefulness will comfort you.

Many

Thinking of you x

So sorry for your loss OP.
to you and your children.

So sorry OP. Huge love to you all.

I’m so sorry for your loss

My lovely Dad is in late stages of cancer and this thread has helped me tonight thank you. x

@JedEye, I hope you are ok? It’s so tough.