How can I support my gay son facing homophobic abuse?

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Hello. I have a 16 year old DS who is gay. He chooses to wear mascara sometimes and jewellery when out and about, but is struggling with horrible homophobic comments/looks etc from random people. He is naturally sensitive and really lacks self esteem and this is crushing him. He is struggling with self confidence in other areas of his life, for example fitting in with friends, which is also impacting him at the moment. He is having some counselling, which I think is helping, but he gets so upset if he hears someone comment or laugh at him (understandably.) He had issues on and off from random people at school, but this seems worse and is making him anxious about going out. I’m hoping starting college in September will help as it’s a much more inclusive environment, but how else do I support him? It is heartbreaking to watch and I am worried about the impact on his mental health. Thanks for any advice.

LGB Alliance have a helpline aimed at young people https://lgballiance.org.uk/helpline/.

Are there any local 'rainbow' youth groups where he could meet with other gay youngsters?

It's horrible when your children are suffering. I hope he finds college a happier experience.

Try a charity or two who support LGBTQIA+ folks. They should be able to signpost you or him to proper support.

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And you can ring to speak to children's services because some help run groups, my eldest attended one locally which was started by youth services at the council/ LA etc.

Thanks very much for the ideas, I’ll have a look at these.