I started a thread in Teenagers but got no response. I'm hoping for help here.
Firstly apologies if I get things wrong I am new to this and I'm not sure on all the lingo etc.
It has come to light through us checking his phone (I know I know but we were concerned about bullying) that DS14 is very heavily into Femboy content on social media, his Snapchat avatar (is that what you call it) is now very feminine and he seems to get lots of questions on social media from school friends about is he gay and is he a femboy that he manages to avoid answering one way or another.
He is very very quiet and has body focused repetitive behaviour which cause damage to his hair/skin.. He could go the whole day without talking to anyone if he didn't have to go to school. He cant answer a simple question such as "what do you want for tea?" without just saying "Don't know". So I feel like if I try to talk to him about this it might make him shut down more or maybe make something he is just experimenting with seem like a big deal iyswim.
I just don't know where to start with any of it.