So my mum and her husband smoke and drink heavily, I would definitely call them functioning alcoholics!
My mum has had a massive go at me because she thinks I'm pushing her out of my 10 week old babies life as I won't take him to her house and I won't let her look after him because of the smoking and drinking. They smoke all around the house and drink literally all the time!
I haven't said that she can't be a part of his life I've said we can go out weekly so she can spend time with him or she could come round to mine ect.
She's now making it a competition between her and my dad and his partner because I allow them to baby sit my son, but they respect my wishes and wouldn't ever drink while they have him and they don't smoke anyway.
I told her while I was pregnant that this would be the case and my mum and her husband just laughed at me as if to say "yeah we'll see". But now it's actually come to it she's gone mad.
She's told me that she won't be giving up smoking or drinking as she said "that's me".
I'm not asking her to give up smoking and drinking just if she wants to have my son they need to not smoke in the house and not drinking while she's taking care of him
Am I being unreasonable?