Part 2
: During a previous separation, he refused to provide money for our eldest daughter's food, medication and appointments. This makes me worried that he may not contribute reliably if I establish a separate home.
The children have also been exposed to verbal aggression, and my middle child is receiving therapy.As am I .
Over time, I feel I have lost my confidence, self-worth and independence. My focus has been almost entirely on caring for the children, and I sometimes wonder whether my lack of confidence and belief that I deserved better made me more vulnerable to the situation I am in.
I would like to understand whether this pattern of behaviour could amount to emotional abuse or coercive control, and whether the circumstances surrounding our financial decisions could be relevant legally.
I currently have no employment income, need accessible accommodation for my eldest daughter, and am frightened about the possibility of becoming homeless.
My main questions are:
- Do I have any grounds to challenge the 50/50 ownership of the property in Ireland, given the circumstances and what I was told about his finances?
- Does the fact that his contribution came from a gift from his sister, rather than his own money, make any difference?
- Could he agree to transfer his share to me, and what legal advice should I obtain before considering any settlement?
- What rights do I have under our joint tenancy in England, and what housing, financial or child maintenance support might be available?
- Could his behaviour amount to coercive control or emotional abuse, and what evidence should I keep?
- Should I seek separate legal advice in Ireland about the property and in England about the tenancy, domestic abuse and support for the children?
I am not looking for revenge. I want to understand my rights, protect my children and find a way to rebuild my independence and security.