4yrs ago I fled DV from my ex partner. We relocated to a new town etc. Child arrangements order was put in place where my ex was allowed indirect contact via letters once a month sent to my parents home. He wasnt allowed to know our new location, childs school etc. At the beginning of August my child said he was going to a sleepover, I knew the other child & their family via school so allowed it. The next day when I tried to contact my child they didn't answer. I called the other parent asking if I could speak to my child & they told me their dad had picked them up. I explained he wasn't allowed contact with his dad, explained the court order etc she said "not my problem" & hung up. I immediately called the police, an officer came to the home stated another officer was going to my exs home, read through the court order etc said my ex wouldnt be arrested. They never told me if my child was found at my exs address they left saying they had other calls to deal with. My child returned home 20mins later stating their dad had dropped them off at the end of the road but watched them walk up to the house. Panic set in because they now knew our address. I explained to my child how worried I was & had to call the police. My child threw into a rage, smashed their room up with a hammer, then ran to the kitchen, picked up a knife & threatened to stab me. Again I called the police. 2 officers arrived & calmed the situation down, during this incident my child admitted they had seen their dad on 4 separate occasions before the overnight stay, had communicated via social media. I called my solicitor the next day explained the situation & she said the order had been broken but to try & speak to my ex about varying the order. I explained i didnt feel safe now my ex knew my location. Told her about what happened when my child came home, she explained the breach of court order process. We sorted out things to get legal aid in place if my ex was to take it back to court. My ex then wrote his usual letter to my child & the contents acted like he had not seen my child at all. Asked how their summer was, how school was etc but he knew all this already from the visits. I contacted our support worker & explained everything to them she also suggested sorting something out with my ex without court involvement. I told her the trust was broken but he hadnt told anyone about these visits when he should have informed someone, just kept it secret. My child disclosed their dads new wife left him last year becasue he was violent towards her & their daughter but she returned if he promised not to do it again. Im at a loss of what to do? Do I file to the courts myself & explain my reservations about the whole situation & further contact or let him take me back to court? I assumed if he wanted to see our child that badly he would have contacted the courts himself by now (its been over a month since he last saw them) but heard nothing. I have shut down all social media via my child. Put trackers on their phone. Isolated myself but everyone is telling me to speak to my ex because its whats best for our child. Im at a loss of what to do