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Father blocking contact after daughter’s allegations and change in residence

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Ben85 · 21/07/2026 20:06

Help! Im not sure what to do. My partner has the most narcissistic ex iv ever come across. So much stuff he has done and gotten away with. Anyway, he has been manipulating her youngest daughter of 12. They share custody 50 50 although she officially lives here with her mum and me.
Slowly she has began to develop a hatred towards her mum that is just not justified. On friday, last day of term, we get a call from the school saying social services have been called because she has told them that her mum hits her and shouts at her.
She's never hit her and she very rarely shouts. Although the disrespect certainly warrants it sometimes.
She hasn't seen her daughter since. Social services aren't looking into it but the dad has cut off communication between mum and daughter and is refusing to let mum see her.
The daughter apparently told social services that she hates her mum and wants to live with dad. Its heatbraking.
Dad ls 47 and lives with his parents who largely fund him. He can't hold a steady job because he's " too good" for the position. Yet he has been spoiling her so much. Since Christmas he has bought her a bike for 2.5k and 3 guitars totally 600. Its not a crime but its clearly swaying the child's mind.

On Thursday her daughter was asking me to put up shelves to display her trophies and certificates and the next day all this happened. Its sickening and we just don't know where to go.

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Hedgehogforshort · 21/07/2026 21:58

Family Court, you need to get legal advice from a family law solicitor.

prh47bridge · 21/07/2026 23:57

Your partner can go back to court to get the order enforced. However, as her daughter is 12, her views will carry significant weight, so the outcome may not be what you want unless your partner can convince the court there has been parental alienation.

Ben85 · 22/07/2026 09:40

prh47bridge · 21/07/2026 23:57

Your partner can go back to court to get the order enforced. However, as her daughter is 12, her views will carry significant weight, so the outcome may not be what you want unless your partner can convince the court there has been parental alienation.

There is quite clearly something going on. Last night the dad text my partner saying there's to be no contact between mum and daughter. He has a tracker on daughters phone and now mum has been blocked on daughters phone.
He tried this a couple of years ago with the eldest daughter but she was 14 at the time and saw through it.
With my partner he has a history of manipulation, controlling behaviour, financial and psychological abuse and identity fraud.

He moved my partner 300 miles away from all her family and friends. Used her identity to take out thousands of pounds in loans so he could gamble it all away. She had to go bankrupt.
He had control over all her money so she never had any. They had to move back home after they couldnt get anywhere to live due to non payment of rent on so many tenancy agreements. Weve been together now for 5 years and living together for 3. She doesn't want any shared finances due to trust issues.

Talking to her mum the other day, she said my partner had to ask permission to meet up with her family for a drink etc, after they'd travelled up to see her.

Some of this is hard to prove as it was years ago. We have kept all messages from him which are very narcissistic.

Sorry for going on. She's going to the c a b today for help. Alot of this stuff was done to her though, not the kids so it might not have any weight.

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