Exes solicitor sent letter to not contact him again

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Long story short he ghosted me after being together some years. He also blocked me on social media and phone etc.

I sent him a registered letter just asking him what went wrong, he sent a letter back and then a week later I get this. I have no way of contacting him anyway and reading his letter I have no wish to but what do you do when you receive something like this? Do I respond to the solicitor? Do I ignore it? Its basically said not to contact him and not to contact his friends. I was actually friends with one of his friends and we only ever chatted about meeting up so I find that odd but I wont contact her again just in case.

Seems a very extreme thing to do and I dont know what the cost of the letter was (he is northern ireland and I am down south so it would be different) and I have no idea of any of this legal stuff.

There is no backstory, there is no huge thing I am omitting it really is as says above. Any advice?

These replies are a bit harsh. You were in a relationship for years and he ghosted you, I don't think a letter is over the top. I hope the reply gave some closure.

To answer your question, you don't need to reply to the solicitor, just don't get back in contact.

@coffeeandcake91 wow where did that conclusion come from? 😂
He ghosted her and OP sent one letter asking what had happened… ONE!
One letter asking if he’s ok doesn’t constitute stalking or harassment and actually OP has every right to an explanation of why after a week away as a blended family with both their kids he’s just gone…. He’s acted very strangely and OP just needs to make sense of his very out of character behaviour.
She’s excepted his bullshit explanation from his letter…. That should’ve been the end of it!…. To then send some (probably made up) solicitor letter just makes him a drama Queen… it was so unnecessary !

I got it from OP's own updates if you read the thread. She said herself that in the letter he sent he answered her questions 🧐

He's also blocked her on social media etc and she carried on trying to contact him? So yeah that's odd.

Btw I'm absolutely not siding with him. He's displaying narcissist behaviour and I agree after kids have met that changes a lot of things and he could have at least treated her with respect.

I never said she did ?

Very odd behaviour on his part, I think you are well shot of him to be honest.

Is the friend female? You sure he’s not in a relationship with her now? Could it be why he asked you not to contact her also? I do find it very strange that he’s cut you off completely without an explanation except when you wrote him a letter. It’s very immature and cold imo. Especially as there are children involved. Not fair at all really.

So you got drunk? Big whoop 🙄 he’s prepared to overlook it 🙄
I mean, you’re hurt right now but maybe you had a lucky escape? 😏

yeh, i think you had a lucky escape. He's entitled to end the relationship of course, but it's not needy to feel like you were owed a conversation. He gave it to you eventually and then sent you a legal back off letter. Odd. It's lacking empathy and it's grandiose imo. So even if he hadn't behaved narcissistically when he valued you, he treated you like he would step on your head to get to your oxygen as soon as he was done with you.

Are you sure most people would have ‘just left it’ after being blocked on social media?? If I’d been with someone for years, kids met, blended family type thing, I’d sure as hell want some answers if I was suddenly just blocked with no explanation!

Are you sure most people would have ‘just left it’ after being blocked on social media?? If I’d been with someone for years, kids met, blended family type thing, I’d sure as hell want some answers if I was suddenly just blocked with no explanation!

Completely agree, @Airspice

But she didn't contact him again after his letter

You are stalking him. Leave him alone

Not sure I’m totally buying that you didn’t try to contact him via phone, text or email, and your first and only attempt was a registered letter…

Yeah im really not stalking him.

Turns out the letter was genuine. Also turns out that it was drafted but he retracted it and replied to me himself but the secretary posted it in error. He himself rang me to let ne know but i had received it by then and was away for a break with friends when he called.

Anyway all over and done with. Thanks for all replies.

She sent him a letter.

of course she did and there’s nothing wrong with that!!
They went on holiday together and hugged goodbye… then he vanished without a word!….
of course she then tried to contact him, she couldn’t so sent him a nice letter asking for an explanation, she got it and that’s the end…. Quite simple really

Thanks for the update OP. It doesn't change anything really, but at least you know why you got both letters. He probably retracted the legal letter when he found out how much it was going to cost. I hope they charged him for it anyway 😂

PS Your comment about adding 'sent from my iPhone' to everything made me laugh out loud.

He sounds awful, he actually went as far as instructing a solicitor (before deciding to reply himself) - who on earth does that? And even though the solicitor posted it in error, that doesn’t make things much better, does it?

Idk why he bothered to phone you. As if receiving the call would make you feel as though he is less of an idiot. Idk who he thinks he is op but as others have said, you’ve so dodged a bullet.