Exes solicitor sent letter to not contact him again

[Iamunhinged]

Long story short he ghosted me after being together some years. He also blocked me on social media and phone etc.

I sent him a registered letter just asking him what went wrong, he sent a letter back and then a week later I get this. I have no way of contacting him anyway and reading his letter I have no wish to but what do you do when you receive something like this? Do I respond to the solicitor? Do I ignore it? Its basically said not to contact him and not to contact his friends. I was actually friends with one of his friends and we only ever chatted about meeting up so I find that odd but I wont contact her again just in case.

Seems a very extreme thing to do and I dont know what the cost of the letter was (he is northern ireland and I am down south so it would be different) and I have no idea of any of this legal stuff.

There is no backstory, there is no huge thing I am omitting it really is as says above. Any advice?

He's clearly not interested, so I'd leave it at that.

Probably got a wife or girlfriend who's getting suspicious

You sent a registered letter but there is no story??? Just do as it says, you have your answer, he wants nothing more.

Just do what you have been asked to do, don't try to contact him or his solicitor. If there are no children and there was no joint property, then you should have no need to contact him.

Sending a registered letter is quite an extreme response.

Have you been trying to contact him a lot?

Is your user name a clue?

You sent a registered letter? Why did you need proof he’d received it?

Anyway, no you don’t reply to the solicitor. Just don’t contact him again.

Why do you feel the need to do anything?! As pp put, just leave it!

Sending a registered letter probably frightened him - if I received such a letter from a recent ex I would assume the sender had a bit of an agenda and had further plans to pursue, or even harass me.

Just ignore the solicitor's letter and get on with your life.

I’d be deeply freaked out by anyone who sent me a registered letter, when it was already clear I didn’t want to talk to them. What on earth were you thinking?

You need to have nothing whatsoever to do with them again.

@NeverDropYourMooncup no wife etc. We were together years just did not live together. Kids met etc.

@SOBplus yes to make sure he got it. He sent me a letter back telling me his reasons and then a week later I got this.

@Hadalifeonce it just seems odd but ok I will not respond to his solicitor.

@Mariannas I have no way of contacting him except driving to his house and I was not willing to do that. I just wanted to know what happened so sent the letter.

@Mariannas the tongue in cheek username is on purpose. I am not unhinged but this letter has me feeling like I am.

The only advice really is stay away from him.
Don't ask others about him.
Don't try to contact him in any way either directly or indirectly.

You don't need to reply to the letter. Just shove it in a drawer and forget about it.

Why did you send a registered letter? That's weird.

I think you should leave him alone now. He's tried to make it plain he wants nothing more to do with you.

(I think there IS a huge backstory)

@Westfacing he responded to my letter though so that in itself should have been enough I would have thought.

@Shelinaa really? Are registered letters frowned upon? Post down here is shite so wanted to be sure it was received.

Yes, really freaked out. I wouldn’t want someone checking up on me, let alone someone who (should have) known I didn’t want contact with them. Your behaviour was way off.

I'm in Ireland too and my post is fine. It is very odd to do what you did. Normally if someone doesn't reply via text/phone call then you back off.

Martha, is that you??

Anyone can end a relationship for any reason they want, he doesn’t owe you any explanation. If it was serious enough for him to cut contact with you and respond via a solicitor, I expect he had very good reasons for ending the relationship. Just leave it at that.

@IncompleteSenten I had no intention of contacting him again when I read his letter received a week before his legal one. I did not try contact him or his friend even in that time. Its very weird.

@VenetiaHallisWellPosh no backstory. We had just come back from a holiday with his and my kids and a few disagreements but thought maybe it was the hol. Came home, went out as normal for dinner, I came home the next day and found he had blocked me everywhere so I was wondering what happened.

@Shelinaa ok well then I am in the wrong so. I sent a letter, he responded. I thought that was the end of it till yesterday.

@Onceacheetah I did not try contact him any other way. I couldnt he blocked me so I sent the letter.

@WetBandits he responded in the normal way. He sent me back a letter. A week later I got this one. There was nothing in between.

@WetBandits I dont have an iphone lol

Hopefully his last letter cleared up any questions you had.

Does he have a big ego? Maybe he thought you were going to get obsessed with him and got the letter sent straight off.

@EatCrow it did and I was happy enough with his explanation. Broken hearted but understood what he said. Then a week later I get this.

Is it a genuine letter from an actual solicitor, or could it be one of those mock-up dodgy ones you can download templates for?

Would he agree that there is no backstory? Once blocked on social media most people would have left it. Sending a registered letter is a bit extreme. The fact that his Solicitor says to not contact him or his friends is a bit tellling that you do not respect boundaries. You do not need to contact his Solicitor, nor him, his family, his friends or workplace. Move on.

@IncompleteSenten not especially to be fair to him. Its out of character for him too as he would have had to not only talk to a solicitor about his personal life but also pay money. I have no idea what a letter like this would cost.