Anyone else divorced after a year? - financial split

[entersandman1]

I was hoping that anyone else who has been in the same position as me could share their experiences. I was married for just over a year (controlling and coercive behaviour started within about a month of getting married).
I wanted to ask what happened with the finances for anyone else who had a very short marriage where they already owned their house and the spouse brought nothing financially to the marriage and our money was all kept separate. My STBXH is demanding money from me or he won't sign the consent order. I am on a very low income (under £12,000 a year, he earns about £35,000) and I'm not actually able to pay him anything or take out a loan. Would be very grateful to hear of anyone else's experiences

If you haven’t been to court at all, you will have a First Hearing, which is pretty brief. Ask whoever represents you to give you a price for taking you through to this point. Chances are, he will fold his cards. Bear in mind, he has to pay for representation as well, and once he realises that, he may well back off.
It’s like playing chess, really: you make a move, “alright, matey, will see you in court” and then see how he responds.
My X, who basically had a dull and boring life, kept enlivening it by endlessly going to court. I had something like 5 hearings. He eventually caved when he was down £90k and was looking at losing another £100k. Stubborn as a rock.