My boyfriend got arrested last night and I don’t know what is happening

[Emz2019]

Me and my partner are expecting a child soon, he has children form a previous marriage and yesterday around 5pm he took them home, he stopped in the street and they got out and left but their mum came out and started shouting at him and he shouted back and she kicked the car and he drove off. He got home and was quite upset by this and left a voice mail for his solicitor. Next thing police are at my door and he’s under arrest for trying to run his ex over apparently. This was 6pm. I got a call from the police at the station at 7:30pm telling me that my partner wanted me to know he’s fine I asked when will he be home they said the early hours depending on how busy they get as Saturday nights are busy. I haven’t slept a wink it’s now almost 8am and I haven’t heard any more. I went onto find my iPhone and he’s still at the police station. However he doesn’t have his phone on him so I can’t contact him at all. I tired to call the police station but a voice message says they can not give out any info regarding anyone in custody. I’m going out of my mind now and don’t know what I can do to find out what is happening or when he will be home or even if he’s possibly been remanded in custody. Can someone help me out please I don’t need this stress I’m heavily pregnant

And did you hear the voicemail he left with his solicitor?

To be clear, I wonder if they want you there for your own protection. As in they know this man is lying to you and dangerous. I can't think of any other reason.

I’m not a Solicitor but I think it would be pretty unusual to be in custody for affray if it’s his first offence. Were you there when he was arrested?

If it is his first offence, they must have some pretty good evidence.

Why do you think he came home and rung his Solicitor and not the Police?

What are your plans if he’s convicted?

Bluntness what difference does it make if they're married? I actually can't think why the police would ask you to attend either way OP. I've never known that happen. They don't ask witnesses to attend plea hearings so why would they ask something who is (technically, as far as they're concerned) unrelated to the case? Very odd.

The whole thing is odd.

The police station voice message should also have said that they can give information about people under 18, not under 17. (Since Judge Moses ruling.)

Rice, yes you're right, I just meant the relationship was more distant and no legal relationship. It's irrelevant though. It's very unusual for the police to ask her to attend. The only thing I can think of is they want her to know.

He told me I didn’t have to be there but I would get an answer as to weather he’s released on bail or not. I don’t know what will happen if he is convicted but I don’t for a second believe he tried to run anyone over, our car was being kicked he drove off fast before it got dinted, the police have taken photos of around the car and the foot prints. I just hope I’m not giving birth on my own we were both so happy about the upcoming birth

How long have you been with him OP and have you heard of Clare’s Law? Even if you believe him wholly, I’d consider asking for a disclosure as you are PG.

3 years

This just gets weirder and weirder. OP I hope you get some answers soon x

Defintely weird. Asking you to go to the station was strange enough butvtakibg photos of the car?

Good luck OP whatever you decide.

Op, it's not the court case tomorrow, he will just be charged, he will plead guilty or not, then be either granted bail or remanded in custody till the court case.

THey took photos of the foot prints? How would you even know this? This has gone from weird to well, rather mind boggling.

Are they definitely her footprints? I realise how cyclical I sound but my ex wouldn’t have been beyond stopping the car on the way home and sticking his boot in it a few times to create some evidence. Sorry OP. I am doubtful of your partner’s story.

cynical

I really really hope that he's telling the truth but I'd be preparing myself for the worst with what you've said.

Just here to offer some support. I hope tomorrow brings answers.
My partner is also experiencing life at the hands of an ex who is desperate to keep control of their child.
It's very hard to believe other women can do this maliciously and for their own selfish reasons, until you witness it for yourself.
Luckily social services have noted that she is "using the child as a tool to overt power over the father". And all her behaviour isn't getting the desired effect.
I could be in your position at any moment. Every single handover is fraught with tension and worry. As previous poster suggested (and following the advice from police when she physically attacked him while he was holding their infant daughter) he has a dash cam that records front and rear, and audio, for these exact reasons. Once this is over, I'd absolutely advise you getting one.
Just yesterday she screamed at him for driving too fast round a corner. Luckily for him, the dash cam shows his calm turning, should she wish to use this in court. It also shows her throwing his daughters toy at his back as he walked back to the car. She doesn't know there's a dash cam yet. But she won't like it if he has to prove his innocence.
I hope this is all sorted and quickly.

When he appears in court his solicitor can request bail, but the CPS may oppose it if they are thinking of a serious charge - which they probably will be is the ex has given a statement saying he deliberately drove at her. I don't know where previous posters got the idea he would automatically be released from custody, the magistrates court on a Monday deals with numerous cases where people have been kept in custody for all or part of the weekend. Some get bail, often with conditions, and some are remanded in custody.

OP Who told you she had accused him of trying to run her (and the kids??) over? and did you hear the voicemail he left for his solicitor?

CPS can be a nightmare to get them to commit to a charging decision, the cost of sending people to court is isn't a cheap one either.
15 years experience tells me you're being lied to.

I've not seen anyone suggest he will be automatically be released from custody? We could go through hypothetical situations all night but realistically you're better off speaking to the solicitors who [should!] have the paperwork tomorrow.

Ok so he got back from her house and was upset they argued she had kicked off about their sons birthday and their son asking for money but her wanting presents. He told me it got bad and she began to kick the car the children were there and also began shouting at him and kicking the car so he drove off. He then rang his solicitor and said I. Had a run in with my ex she’s kicked off we had a huge row in the street and I don’t think I can go ahead with the court case anymore it’s causing too much stress. Police turn up and arrest on suspicion of affray, put him put him into a van and come into the garden and take pictures of the foot prints around the car up near the windows and on the doors all different sizes one quite large and looked like a Nike air max shoe print. Then a family member tells me his ex has put all over Facebook he drove the car at high speed at her and the children. Her street is a 1 way street if they were kicking the car and he drove off he would have just left the street and came home. It’s not making any sense to me

affray is a group action

You need to try and get in touch with his solicitor before tomorrow!!!