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My boyfriend got arrested last night and I don’t know what is happening

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 07:43

Me and my partner are expecting a child soon, he has children form a previous marriage and yesterday around 5pm he took them home, he stopped in the street and they got out and left but their mum came out and started shouting at him and he shouted back and she kicked the car and he drove off. He got home and was quite upset by this and left a voice mail for his solicitor. Next thing police are at my door and he’s under arrest for trying to run his ex over apparently. This was 6pm. I got a call from the police at the station at 7:30pm telling me that my partner wanted me to know he’s fine I asked when will he be home they said the early hours depending on how busy they get as Saturday nights are busy. I haven’t slept a wink it’s now almost 8am and I haven’t heard any more. I went onto find my iPhone and he’s still at the police station. However he doesn’t have his phone on him so I can’t contact him at all. I tired to call the police station but a voice message says they can not give out any info regarding anyone in custody. I’m going out of my mind now and don’t know what I can do to find out what is happening or when he will be home or even if he’s possibly been remanded in custody. Can someone help me out please I don’t need this stress I’m heavily pregnant

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 11:46

I’m so worried the cps will charge him and the police will keep him in custody until court

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ourkidmolly · 25/03/2018 12:01

That definitely won't happen on the information you've given us. No way. Please put that scenario out of your head.

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 12:03

I really hope not

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MaverickSnoopy · 25/03/2018 12:06

Nothing constructive to say but Thanks for you. Is there anyone that can come over and sit with you?

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 12:08

Not really no. But it’s been an hour since I got the call so only around 1 more hour tops hopefully and I will know. Hopefully he says he’s coming home and then I can relax. Do the police always involve CPS this quickly after an arrest?

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Zeelove · 25/03/2018 12:17

Your going to be thinking the worst but the police see this stuff all the time. Try and watch Elmer to take your mind off it.

youarenotkiddingme · 25/03/2018 12:31

the process is what takes the time. Longevity of the process is no indication the outcome.

Rachie1986 · 25/03/2018 12:37

Hope you hear something soon OP and all is ok x

Dixeychick · 25/03/2018 12:49

Sorry you're going through this OP. My DH had a very similar experience with his batshit ex - he's a gentle giant but because he's a big bloke and she's a softly spoken petite woman who is a master at playing the victim he had to spend a night in a cell - they just assumed he was a wife beater. The system seems to be stacked against men. They released him & nothing was made of it due to lack of evidence. Sounds like she has form for being nuts so hopefully they will clock what really happened quickly.

iheartmichellemallon · 25/03/2018 12:54

Sounds a nightmare Op - good luck Thanks

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 12:58

I hope so. And yes he seams to be in a lot of trouble but when she was sat outside of our house stalking us and threatened to kill me the police didn’t seam Intrested. But because she has accused him of something he’s arrested instantly and who knows when he will be home

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 25/03/2018 13:00

Unpleasant situation but you’re seriously doing yourself no good at all getting this stressed about it. He won’t come to any harm in custody. He is fine, he isn’t hurt. He will be home soon and you can talk, arrange to see solictoyr and deal with it. But seriously,calm down! You’re mistreating doesn’t affect the outcome.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 25/03/2018 13:01

Mistreating! Confused = stressing!

Bluntness100 · 25/03/2018 13:02

There is a difference between threats and stalking and trying to run someone over though, the latter can be as serious as attempted murder.

If there is no evidence, he will not be charged. If he didn't do it, then there will be no evidence, the neighbours won't lie to the extent required here. Try not to worry too much, you will hear soon. 💐

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 14:15

He did get to call me. He said it’s very seriously and she has family members lying saying they were there. The cps have not got back to them as of yet

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blueskyinmarch · 25/03/2018 14:46

Sounds awful. I hope they see through the lies. They police will not be happy if they go and take statements off everyone that is supposed to have seen it then they find out they were all lying.

sillyoldowl · 25/03/2018 14:54

Oh god how awful
I hope you get answers soon

Bluntness100 · 25/03/2018 15:00

How public is the place she lives. She can't have all the neighbours lie as well, so others will have seen him just drive off. Don't worry.

What are they looking to charge him with?

If they are lying they themselves could be jailed, and if the road has other houses, the police will ask everyone in all the houses what they saw, inc rhe kids who will have witnessed it, even if back in house, they would have looked out window if their parents were fighting in the street.

I would say though, one of them is lying. It's the polices job to work out which, but yes if they have sent it to the cps they may think they have enough evidence to charge him and at this moment in time they think it's him that's lying.

Motherduckling · 25/03/2018 15:05

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RebootYourEngine · 25/03/2018 15:20

I know this wont help this time but as soon as he is released i would buy a dash cam incase she tries something like this again.

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 15:25

I’m so stressed. He said if the cps don’t hurry up then he will be taken to court in the morning and something will happen then. Her street is fairly public

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Tippexy · 25/03/2018 15:29

It’s funny how many men have batshit exes, isn’t it?

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 15:51

It’s crazy. I just don’t know where to turn or how to help him

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blueskyinmarch · 25/03/2018 16:09

There is nothing you can do except wait. Try and keep yourself busy.

CaptainMarvelDanvers · 25/03/2018 16:12

You can’t help him until CPS makes a decision.

Also it’s highly unlikely that her neighbours would lie for her, it sounds like he may be getting you ready for the likelihood that something may come out that doesn’t sound too good for him.

Stalking is also illegal so when she is doing that you should be ringing the police every single time.

But I think if he get’s charged that you should consider even the slightest possibility that it could be true.