My boyfriend got arrested last night and I don’t know what is happening

[Emz2019]

Me and my partner are expecting a child soon, he has children form a previous marriage and yesterday around 5pm he took them home, he stopped in the street and they got out and left but their mum came out and started shouting at him and he shouted back and she kicked the car and he drove off. He got home and was quite upset by this and left a voice mail for his solicitor. Next thing police are at my door and he’s under arrest for trying to run his ex over apparently. This was 6pm. I got a call from the police at the station at 7:30pm telling me that my partner wanted me to know he’s fine I asked when will he be home they said the early hours depending on how busy they get as Saturday nights are busy. I haven’t slept a wink it’s now almost 8am and I haven’t heard any more. I went onto find my iPhone and he’s still at the police station. However he doesn’t have his phone on him so I can’t contact him at all. I tired to call the police station but a voice message says they can not give out any info regarding anyone in custody. I’m going out of my mind now and don’t know what I can do to find out what is happening or when he will be home or even if he’s possibly been remanded in custody. Can someone help me out please I don’t need this stress I’m heavily pregnant

So the cps have decided he is to be remanded in custody tonight and court in the morning. I can’t believe it at all it’s unreal

Can you get hold of his solicitor?

Ok that's very serious. The cps clearly thinks there is enough evidence he did it. What's he being charged with exactly? Will you go to court?

It must be fairly serious if they are remanding him in custody overnight OP. Are you sure he hadn’t got previous convictions?

You can sit in the Magistrates’ Court tomorrow but you won’t be able to speak to him until (if) he is released. The Court Ushers will be able to tell you which Courtroom to go to.

Court sessions usually start at 10am and continue throughout the day, so you could be there all day before he is heard by the Bench. If you are going I’d take sone food and drink for yourself.

I'd also consider the possibility op that he did actually do it.

I will be going to court, I don’t know he’s never done anything like it before and he never looses his temper. I’m so shocked and feel like I have been punched in the chest

X-posted with the others there since your latest update. O agree with the others that the CPS should have enough evidence to feel that they will get a conviction and it is unlikely that the neighbours would willingly lie for her. There is nothing you can do for him tonight but I think you need to think consider that he may well have done it and if he has, how you are going to move forward.

You should also be able to ask the Ushers tomorrow if you can speak to his Solicitor and they should be able to tell you what evidence they have before the hearing.

It would explain why he came home so upset and immediately called his solicitor, what you described was relatively minor for that reaction.

Was she hurt op?

*I agree.

Holy God do you think she's playing up because you're pregnant?

if it's his word against hers I'd be surprised they're dragging him straight to court tomorrow someone must have seen it or are saying they did

I'd also be supposed if this was simply he tried to run her over, because that's a question of intent. Max dangerous driving. For thr police to be acting this way. I'd be worried he has hurt her. As in he did run her over.

No nobody got hurt, I guess the kids were shaken their parents had an argument and perhaps they have exaggerated to the police and this happened once before and his children tried lying to police and social service about something and they admitted in the end they lied because their mum wanted them too. Yes I’d like to speak to his solicitor and see what evidence they actually have as if it’s just a couple of staments off family then does that really stand as evidence?

I'm practical things.

Can you speak to solicitor.
Is there someone who can come to yours for evening to help you stay calm and/or come tomorrow.
Does he need/ are you allowed to get him clean clothes/ toothbrush etc?
Can you speak to him/ is that allowed?

No, the OP will not be able to speak to him before the hearing because he’s in Police Custody youarenot

Will I be able to speak to anyone before it goes into court?

You may be able to speak to his solicitor.

What exactly does he tried to run her over mean op. From what you've described this is an extreme reaction by the cps and police. I know I've asked before, but exactly what is he being charged with?

Is the non-Molestation Order defintely on her and not your DP? If he’s breached a non-mol it might explain why he’s currently in custody.

No the non mol is on her for stalking and harassing and attacking him. She ha said he drove the car very fast towards her and her children. However nobody was hit by the car and nobody was hurt. I’m certain if he had tried to run them over he would have ran them over. My head is such a mess

My exh was charged with using his car as an offensive weapon. He drove at his ex + his mate who he caught having sex, he was fined.

Far more common for the woman to have a non-mol against the man (though obviously not impossible the other way around!) and would pretty much guarantee a demand to court if breached so that would explain it if the other way around. You won't be able to give anything to him in the cells (and the solicitor won't pass him anything for you) but he might appreciate you taking something for him to change into if he is released. Prepare yourself that depending on the scenario he might not be - you will know much more once you've spoken to the solicitor. The most practical thing you could do now is to think of an alternative address for bail if they live near you to put space between them. Make sure you have details for the solicitor along with a number for the home owner so they can confirm it directly. The police won't give you detailed information even if you are the nominated person but no reason they can't tell you who his solicitor is and if they have permission they can discuss it with you before court and as already mentioned will have a 24hr contact number.

Is it possible that someone filmed the incident? Might explain how they've charged him so quickly.

Sorry and to answer an earlier question - any statement (including from her, or her family) is evidence. Doesn't make it fact obviously but it is evidence that they will use to build a case.

So will it be torture tomorrow seeing him in court not being able to speak to him unless he gets bail ? Or will I be able to speak to him at the end regardless?