Will PR be granted? Please give advice.

[Olafsmum]

Hi previously in court once (directions hearing I think its called). ex wants contact of our 8 month old DC and to be on the birth certificate.
He has seen DC a handful of times, doesn't pay maintenance, I haven't claimed it, and I don't want it but he has brought gifts numerous times and posted some odds and ends.
I am not allowing contact unless it is at contact centre. I would like reports of him bonding with dc and I don't understand why he is interested. (He is engaged, she has a child I believe they are trying for one of their own)
In court last time we agreed contact centre and that I add him to the birth certificate. I haven't added him. And he hasn't had any contact at all as he couldn't afford the transport or contact centre costs (would cost him £90 a session - low income I believe.)
He has been in contact a lot indirectly, sent gifts asks for photos daily. But I still do not want any less than contact centre. I don't want to be around him, feels like he flaunts his happy life infront of me and I cant be doing with it while struggling to keep my own relationship together tbh.

So what is likely to happen now in court please? I am self representing and very nervous. Is it likely he is to be granted contact outside of a contact centre? He hasn't done anything towards me or dc... and is being nice. Will I be forced to add him to the birth certificate now?
Cafcass checks have come back clear for both sides - if that helps?

I really don't get folk who do this. Surely your child has a right to get to know their other paren? It's an utterly selfish and disgusting thing to do. I'm a single parent so I've been there. There's no way in hell I'd deny my child a chance to know his father though. It's not my choice to make. His father was verbally abusive to me and pissed of with someone else when I was in hospital and in premature labour, but it was not my choice. Ds decided to stop seeing him due to his behaviour towards ds, and ds knows nothing about his father's behaviour towards me, it's wrong to try and cloud your child's judgement about their other parent IMO.

It's been bloody difficult to be civil, but it was in ds's best interests to know where he comes from so I had to get over it.

I can't believe this thread. Put your own feelings aside just for one second and think of your son. You were quick enough to have sex with this person yet won't give him the opportunity to be a dad to your child together

I hate to tell you this because your not going to like it but he will get PR and even if you convinced a judge (who has seen things like this on numerous occasions) that a contact centre is needed - it will only be for a short period of time and he will get unsupervised and overnight access. Your protesting all this will not go down well with court. Your argument for your son not having a relationship with his dad is completely based on how you feel. There is no evidence to suggest any of your argument is in what's in the best interest of the child, which is what the court base contact on.

It is not for you to say when and how your ex has contact with his child but it is your child's right to have a relationship.

I really don't see what your problem is. If your that worried about him (why I don't know) leave contact go ahead. If he's a feckless dad it'll all show through his contact time and only then will you have a right to raise concerns - when there is clear evidence.

I really feel for the man. It's women like you who make it hard for those who actually do have children to protect. I hope this man has clear evidence of every time he's tried making contact as this will also go a long way.