Filed for Contact Order when contact arrangement in place?

[confuzzlement]

What to do?

XH has filed court papers, received today, for a contact order when we have an arrangement in place already. We are working to a temporary arrangement due to issues in the past with DS routine and XH commitment. XH comes every weekend for 8 hours. This is a gradual build up and to display a show of commitment. DS is now 2 and a half.

He has rejected mediation.

Any ideas? We are due to go to court at the end of next month, but I just don't know what to do. He seems complacent to overrule me and this seems like a winning game to him.

8 hours a weekend is very little. Perhaps you're not increasing it fast enough for his liking, or he wants the court to oversee a reasonable timetable for increase. Presumably he wants overnights too.

Why is he "overruling" you? Do you just mean he doesn't do what you say?

my DD is 2 this month her Dad had nothing to do with her for 9 months and he has been given once a week 8-5 and is looking for over nights when we go back in November.

We had contact arranged as he had no experience with babies and they didnt know each other, he then kicked off physically causing criminal damage we went to a contact centre and now the above time is our arrangement. I suspect as you were married the court wil extend his times and from what I understand overnights are commonplace from 2 years old. Regardless of breastfeeding, suitable accomadation (my exbf is in a tiny studio flat i dont see how thats suitable to keep a toddler cooped up) or previous routine for child etc