For those of you with three (or more) children...

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Do each of your children have a bedroom each?

I have an 11 yo, a 14 yo (boys) and an almost one yo (girl).

We rent.

A three-bed is fine at the moment as our baby girl is in with us, but not sure what to do in the future?

Well, yes, my 3 have been lucky enough to (since the younger two were about 5 and 8), but I'm not sure how that helps you ?
Many families have 3 sharing one room, some even have more than that in one room.

Some people do, some people don't have their own rooms. Everyone's circumstances are different.

2 DC have own room, youngest 2 share. I can't think of a family with 4+ who don't have at least some sharing; I can think of a family with just 2 who who share. I suppose neighbours have 3 who don't share.

If it's any consolation to you, my DC were lucky enough to have their own rooms. Throughout pretty much the whole of their teens, the girls (3 years between them) spent almost every night sharing a room, giggling together in the same bed and watching TV box sets, or giving each other makeovers.

I couldn't get my head round why you'd want your sister in your room!

It's just that I feel guilt I guess.
So many people tell me I shouldn't as many siblings share?
My mum was 1 of 5 and she shared until she left home.
But it would be my eldest two boys so not sure?

I was one of three children and my brothers shared the big room until we were in our teens when we moved to a four bed. I then got a big room and my brothers had a small room each.

Kind of similar to you op with an age gap - I have 3 ds's who are 13, 11 and 4. We're also in a 3 bed.

Dh and I are in the middle sized bedroom, Ds1 and ds2 share the largest double and ds3 has his own room.

Some people think it's odd and that ds1 should have his own room with ds2 and ds3 sharing. But it just makes so much more practical sense for the oldest two to share. They're closer in age, have a lot of similar interests and even some shared games and gadgets. They're both brilliant with ds3 but neither of them want a 4 year old jumping all over them when they're in the middle of a board game or a Fortnite tournament.

Ds3 is a typical 4 year old - big toys, mess, forts, noise. To make ds2 share with him when he's at an age where he wants a more grown up room and not an explosion of plastic tat would seem really unfair.

Ds1 would love his own room but understands why it's ds3 who has his own room and is only mildly put out about it!

Oh also should mention - ds3's room is also a double room, albeit the smallest double - but still decent sized.

As a kind of 'sweetener' for ds1 and 2 having to share, they have their large wardrobe in d3's room. Ds3 still has plenty of space but it frees up extra in the oldests' room which they appreciate as they both have their own gaming desks. Ds3 is a long way off needing privacy so ds1 and 2 going in each morning to get clothes hasn't been a problem at all.

My youngest 2 are twins and they share, the other 2 have their own rooms now. But they shared for years.

I'd have the older 2 share. Do you have a big room you could seperate into two halves?

I shared with my sister until I moved out at 21. We didn't moan! We had half a room each and it worked really well x

We have 3, and they each have their own room now after an extension. The two same sex siblings shared for about 3 years (well, youngest was in with us really).

I would keep the baby in with you for a fair old while though, she doesn't need a room as yet.

We have my DD12 sharing with DSD11 ij the biggest bedroom with ensuite which works well as she only comes once a month so it feels like a sleepover and they enjoy it. DSS5 has the box room as he's the only boy - he's happy with this as we've made it his own little space (he's here a third of the time). DD2 has a larger bedroom which she will share with DD3 eventually who is currently still in our room. We also have a playroom which could potentially be a bedroom if the younger girls want their own space when they're older but at the moment we find it better to have bedrooms for sleep only with minimal toys.

Thanks all, it's made me feel better knowing that not everyone has a house big enough for one bedroom each per child.
We can't do anything structurally unfortunately as we're in rented. We are lucky in that all three bedrooms are of a decent size (two upstairs, one downstairs).
It's fine as it is for the minute but I'm just aware that our little girl will need her own room at some point.

Yes but as 2 of them sleep with me we could downsize to a 2 bed

@HerRoyalNotness I hear you! I think my baby will be in with us for a few years yet!!
The 11 and 13 year-old not so much though

We have a 4 bed house. Planned 1-2 kids. DH works from home, so the smallest box bedroom is his office.

We have the master bed & ensuite. When DD arrived we gave her the second bedroom. Then I found out I was having twins. So DD now has the third bedroom (small double) and the twin boys will have the second bedroom, which is a bit bigger. At the moment they’re still babies so in with me.

Whilst they’re young I’m sure they will be fine sharing. In time we may move/extend to get the extra space.

I have two teenage girls who share a room. Eldest son in box room. To be honest it's difficult now they are teenagers. They loved sharing when younger but hate it now as they want privacy and I feel terrible guilt as cannot afford to move or have loft room. I let one of them use my bedroom after school and evenings up until I go to bed. That really helps.

Sorry, going against the grain here.

I think it’s fine while young for siblings to share and quite fun for them.

But when they get older having a private space is important. I was very relieved when my parents moved us to a bigger house when I was 10 so no longer had to share with my sister. Particularly as an introvert, having that solitude was invaluable.

We did a loft conversion to create a fourth bedroom before starting to TTC number 3.

My 12 & 8 YO DDs currently share and my DS aged 10 has his own room. But we are moving to a 4 bed (soon hopefully 🙏 if our sellers get their act together).

But I grew up in a 3 bed with 4 kids and it was fine, intact as a teen/young adult I shared with my mum. Strange circumstances but not a massive issue.

We had three in a three bed house. The boys shared and had bunkbeds until oldest went off to Uni then other son had his own room, Dd had her own room.

I've got 3 boys and they have 2 bedrooms between them with 2 sets of bunk beds and a pull out bed under each. My boys are 15, 14 and 7. The youngest doesn't like sleeping by himself so the teenagers take it in turns to bunk in with him. They only really use one of the bedrooms to sleep in and one of the bedrooms is more for socialising in. They are very happy most of the time.

We have 3 DC and they all have their own bedroom, except my boys (3 & almost 2) always end up in the same room so I think we’re just going to move their beds into the same room.
My sister and I had our own rooms growing up but always chose to share as well. They will be fine.

Yes I'm with @Summergarden sorry but I think it's important for them to have their own space.

My two girls (16 and 10) would probably kill each other they both like to escape a busy house and shut their own doors and spend time doing their own thing.

My two boys are super close in age 6 and 7 but also in their relationship but they have very different personalities one is very calm and placid one less so! The slightly crazy one would love to share the calmer one would be horrified he likes to play quietly and alone sometimes.

But if it's not possible it not possible is there any extra space downstairs that maybe one of the sharers could use if the other is in the bedroom for quiet time if they need it?

I loved sharing a room with my sister until I was about 13, but even then it was fine.

Our youngest two will share. Eldest will have his own room as there is a ten year gap.

@Summergarden

Sorry, going against the grain here.

I think it’s fine while young for siblings to share and quite fun for them.

But when they get older having a private space is important. I was very relieved when my parents moved us to a bigger house when I was 10 so no longer had to share with my sister. Particularly as an introvert, having that solitude was invaluable.

We did a loft conversion to create a fourth bedroom before starting to TTC number 3.

I agree with this. I think it will also be really difficult for the boys to suddenly have to share as teenagers. We sacrificed a lot to enable our boys to have their own bedrooms once the younger two boys who shared, were 9 and 10. It's not the end of the world for them to share, but I wouldn't be surprised if they were very unhappy about it.