FET w/c 9th November 2026

[Winnie121]

Hiya,

I am finally having my first transfer next week, after 3 years of TTC.

My circumstances are a little different in that my husband and I are using an egg donor. We had 4 cycles of IVF in 2024 and 2025 but we couldn'tget past day 3 Blastocyst.

I also have endometriosis which has played quite a big part in my low egg reserve. My egg collections only ever got between 4 to 7 eggs. Im 38 yrs old so that doesn't help either. We could have tried again with with my own eggs, but finances come into that decision, which is when we decided to try again with an egg donor. It obviously increased our chances.

Im up to date with all my meds and await a transfer next week with my first embryo with the grading 5AB.

Is there anyone else with similar circumstances, or due to have a transfer soon.

Hello! I am due to have my FET on 12th, so not long after you :)

I have a scan on Saturday though to check my lining, so I'm not really believing it until then.

Congratulations on making it to this stage, sounds like you have had quite the journey. 5AB is a fantastic grade! How are you feeling?

My circumstances are a little different to yours, but we have been on quite a gruelling journey too so fingers crossed for both of us this time around!

Hiya,

Its really nice to hear back from someone. Its been quite a tough journey, and my husband and I haven't told anyone what's been going on in our lives. Feels good to just put it out there now.

I had a scan on Tuesday was abit early and my lining was 6mm. But im due another scan tomorrow so fingers crossed its all looking good and then I have my Transfer on the 12th. Good luck on saturday I hope everything is looking really good for you.

I feel so happy weve got this far, but the feeling never leaves me that something could go wrong, I always feel in fear of the disappointment, but im making efforts to keep busy and not let my mind wonder. I try to pictures what lies ahead to keep happy thoughts etc.

How are you feeling about the 12th? Ive seen so much online about preparing for a transfer, some of it is very overwhelming but I try to do as much as I can.
Thank you for posting

Ah I'm glad sharing on here has made you feel better. It must be really tough having not told any of your friends or family. I am quite the opposite and can't keep it to myself!! I think both have their benefits. Sometimes I regret everybody knowing (we have done a few transfers up to now and each time we have played it differently - don't worry, we did get pregnant on our first one so it absolutely happens!! I also have sooo many friends who have babies from their first transfer).

6mm is well on the way to being thick enough for a transfer, so fingers crossed for tomorrow. Let me know how you get on.

I am feeling mixed about the 12th. There is always a bit of excitement about what could be, but also I can tell I am not getting my hopes up and guarding my heart a little. I don't feel like I can get properly ready for it until after my scan and it's actually booked. How are you?

It is very hard not to let your mind wander, and I think it is natural after a very tough journey to struggle not to think negatively, so don't beat yourself up for that. As you say, all we can do is try and keep busy, and if it helps to visualise a positive outcome then great! I do try and remind myself that what will be, will be and to just trust the process.

In terms of the prep.. again, having done a few I honestly think do what you can, but don't stress yourself out. I think doing all you can helps mentally as well, as the rest really is out of our control. The only things I tend to focus on are no alcohol, no caffeine (or limited to 200mg), a healthy diet, recommended supplements, getting my steps in and low/moderate exercise, good sleep (where possible), staying hydrated. I think other than that, a lot of it is unproven/old wives' tales and it becomes a bit of a minefield. What have you been doing so far?

Yeh feels like a weight lifted. Needing a safe space through this process is so important. I regularly wished to talk to someone but found it too difficult. I think what makes it easier right now is talking to someone who is going through their journey similar to mine and understands the worries, the stress, the anxiety, the reluctant excitement. I really hear you though, that both have their benefits.

Right now I think on the 12th I will be excited at the prospect of another chance that could mean pregnancy. It'll feel reall again, within reach. And then I have a lot of anxiety about the 2 week wait, sometime im think I cant wait to see that positive line other I invision breaking down again. Then I quickly remove the bad thoughts and try to keep it positive. I was off social media for about a year and returned last week, I thought people's stories might help, and they have.

So far, I dont drink alcohol or coffee. Decaff occasionally. Eats eggs, avacados, salmon, greek yogurt and berries, hot soups, beetroot and pomegranate juice. Im eating others meats too. Basically hot meals and hot drinks other than the yogurt and juice. Drinking plenty of water too. I sleep well about 9 hours every night. Ive just had shoulder surgery so ive been house bound and not really getting any exercise, but I went for a short walk today so I'll be doing that tomorrow and so on.

Wed feels a little while away but that leaves plenty of time to my lining 😊.
Ive got everything crossed for us both. Don't hesitate to ping a post before then if you need.

Well I'm glad you're feeling excited @Winnie121 .. and as you should! Like you've said, it is a very real chance at achieving pregnancy and there is no reason why it shouldn't result in that. Nerves are normal, but it is because we want it so much and we know there are no guarantees. However, it sounds like you're doing everything you can to give it the best possible chance + you have a fantastic quality embryo - so everything crossed!!

Social media is a tricky one.. I try and stay away too as it can set me into a spiral.

I will let you know how I get on tomorrow and whether mine is going ahead next week or not.

Hi @AnonTTC

All the best today. Fingers crossed for a healthy lining. Mine had improved yday to 8.1mm and still have some time so the clinic were happy. They confirmed it will go ahead on the 12th.

Let me know how you get on. Wishing the most positive news. X

Hello @Winnie121 - amazing news about your lining. I feel like 8.1mm is a perfect measurement ahead of starting your progesterone, so you should feel great going into the transfer.

Mine was ever so slightly under on Saturday (6.7mm), so I am going back on Wednesday to confirm it's above 7 and my transfer is now scheduled for Monday 16th.

Hope you're feeling excited ahead of Thursday :)