Thank you for your answer.
Sorry to hear you feel down. It's an awful feeling, as it comes with the realisation that we may never be successful. But from what I know, for more difficult cases it can take several attempts.
Strangely, I am feeling ok. I felt down after the first cycle. Because I underwent Fresh transfer and then waiting for two weeks. It's awful to imagine your are pregnant for 2 weeks and then you are not.
But now I change the strategy and I believe is much better. After the first cycle I decided I will not do any transfer until I obtain at least 2-3 blasts and then transfer them all at once. In Greece you can transfer up to 4 embryos, for my age group. I believe this is better, both emotionally, financially and other points of view, given you have to use some medications post transfer, and for example progesterone inhibits folliculogenesis, therefore this would delay the next cycle.
In the first cycle, the doctor took the decision to transfer my embryo at day 3, which I believe for a women over 40 is not a good idea, if there is only one embryo. From 2 points of view:
- For a women over 40, many embryo will never make it to blast stage(Day 5 or Day 6). If you only have one embryo, then there are very slim chances to make it. If you have few of them, then is a different situation. This is exactly what happened the second time in my case: my embryo was growing very well to day 4 and then stopped. If I would have done the transfer at day 3 then I would have wait two weeks, while taking unnecessary medications.
- Blastocyst stage are more like to implant. It's at blastocyst stage when an embryo is capable of implantation. Also there is a certain window of time when the uterus is ready to receive the embryo
Having said that, I am aware there are clinics with good success at day 3, or even at day 2. But this is not a good strategy if you are over 40 and you only have one embryo at a time.
So, to increase the chances, I will collect 2-3 blasts first. This means I may need to do several IVF's cycles, just to obtain 2-3 blasts.
However, as for now, I wasn't even able to produce not even one blast!
What is your case? How was your last cycle?