Last infertile friend has had a baby

[afaloren]

It’s just hard. I’m so happy for her and adore her and her baby but it’s just so hard to be the only one left. I selfishly miss my friend who I used to talk to about this stuff. I’m so happy for her but just feel so sad and lonely and left behind.

In my 40s now. It’ll never happen. It’s so hard. I’m so sad.

I'm so sorry that you're in this position op. It's tough and understandable that you are feeling sad. Infertility is an isolating experience & it's no wonder you are feeling lonely. You are allowed to feel like this. It's shit to be the last person standing whilst everyone else moves on.

Solidarity

So sorry OP. It’s not easy but distraction and keeping busy helps, so you don’t have time to dwell on the unfairness (and it is so unfair) of it all.

Reach out to friends who are not in the baby/small child haze.

I have no words that will help your pain, you are not alone and we all know that words won’t help.
If you have friends without children, try to reconnect with them. Take time away from group chats and meet ups if all they do is talk little ones, I’ve had to do this in my circle.
Sending you virtual hugs and I hope things improve for you soon. X

Thank you all for replying, I really appreciate it

We are going away (rules permitting) with other child-free friends later this year. I am trying to stay busy with learning a language and doing things I love. It’s just hard.

So sorry to those of you in the same boat. Sending lots of love

(They are child-free, we are childless, but you get what I mean.)