That’s really shit they won’t investigate too. I was told if you’re over 35, two miscarriages can be investigated. Seems quite cruel given no matter what type of miscarriage, it’s a miscarriage - losses from ectopics aren’t less upsetting.
It’s horrible, the “am I pregnant? Can I go out? Can I drink this beer? Better turn down that just in case” and then to miscarry is just awful. I understand that feeling. I’m at the point where I live my life as normal, because I miscarried when I didn’t know I was pregnant and had a few drinks and miscarried when I dye everything right, took the vitamins, baby aspirin and hardly left my bed. So the way I see it, what I do makes no difference and until medically advised otherwise I’ll continue with my job, doing things with dc, and my normal life. Took me ages to get to this point though.
Yeah, it’s not something everyone thinks about. There are loads of reasons for IVF, and they don’t gave equal success rates. You can also screen them, to ensure non viable pregnancies aren’t put back. This means that the normal chromosomal miscarriage is vastly reduced (I don’t think the risk is eliminated but it’s very much lowered).
I have lots of issues with pain and periods, so if you don’t then endo might not be so likely. Do you get pain where the tube is? I get horrible left sided pain with mine.
If it’s the ectopic that caused it, your chances of it being both tubes are so much lower. The main cause is usually infection, so in both of our cases, we have a much higher chance of it being just the one tube. Especially as you can conceive naturally, which is hard to do with two damaged tubes.
Hope this is helpful OP. I really sympathise. Look after yourself 