Hi there
Have name changed for this
I have been reffered for my first (and only) funded ivf cycle. I have not told my employers as they are not very understanding or i feel very discreet.
I work in care and deal regularly with clients with dementia /alzheimers and mental health issues.
The job can be very physical as even with using correct training to safely move people i can feel the strain as those with the above issues are not able to support themselves properly.
I also use public transport during the day to get to and from work and to the clients and am rushing to try to keep to appointment times as they dont really give you enough time to get to and from one call to the next!
I feel that taking the time off following transfer will be beneficial as i wont be rushed , stressed and when manovuering people constantly worrying did i just do any harm or feel every little niggle, ache or pain is a sign i have overdone things.
I filled out a holiday form to cover the tww after e.t give to my employer and (after they questioned dates) i have said i am having a procedure done and its personal.
They are insisting i take this off as sick instead of using holiday so i dont use it all up on this. I appreciate that in a way.
But the point of booking it off is so i can relax in the knowledge its all authorised (well ahead of time) and planned for and not to have to give explanations or provide personal letters or proof.
Also so can have time out from work and relax and try and give myself the best possible chance of sucess as and i know im very lucky to have even one round of the treatment funded, i have one go at it.
Im willing to use my leave to do so, so i can have that peace of mind at least i did my best on reducing stress levels .one of my family members also recently passed away and they were not very understanding about it and basically said i had to go in and get on with it. So that in itself has been stressful and reinforces my belief they wouldnt be understanding or accomadating if i was to tell them the situation.
They have said to get note from GP. But i dont know how realistic this is to ask? I feel it seems quite cheeky to ask for this although my gp is pretty understanding . im just not quite sure how to go about asking.
Any advice greatly received
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