IVF cramps and discharge

[Littlelantern]

Hi It's been 6 days since my 5dt. I've had cramps since Wednesday and had some brown discharge and boobs have stopped hurting. Feel numb is it too soon to give up hope?

[Littlelantern]

Sorry should have said brown discharge has started tonight

[NoImBridgetJones]

I was 6dp5dt yesterday too and also woke up to empty, painless boobs having previously been full and sore. I don't know what it means I'm afraid. Fwiw I feel the same as you but officially I think we're not supposed to read into any symptoms. Torturous and impossible isn't it Sorry I can't offer anything other than solidarity.

[cherryontopp]

You'll drive yourself mad if you symptom spot. Trouble is, people get cramps, discharge, if pregnant or coming on their period.

Wait til 9dp5dt and test with a first response.

Good luck

[Littlelantern]

Oh Noimbridgetjones I'm with you too. I've had more brown spotting this morning which is what I always have before AF so not feeling hopeful. Felt so positive the whole week when I had 'symptoms' got my fingers crossed for you

That's what's happened cherryontopp I've tried to hold out on testing till tomorrow which will be day 9. Google has not been my friend!

[meadowlark3]

Lantern, I'm in the same position. I'm 8dp5dt of our first fresh IVF cycle, felt so positive the first days but since 5dpt been convinced it hasn't worked. There's really no way of knowing until the test though unfortunately. I've managed to stay off google for the past day or so and it has helped me
feel a bit less mental. Hope tomorrow comes quickly for you. Xx

[Littlelantern]

It's weird how it just stops isn't it meadowlark I feel just normal now. No googling today, have told DH to stop too. He's checking on me with every time I go to the toilet! Are you testing tomorrow too? Wishing you lots of luck x

[meadowlark3]

Lantern, it's rubbish. I started with a bit of cramping yesterday, but funny cramps that felt hot and round my womb rather than proper AF cramps. Not sure if I have any cramps today of I'm just imagining. I don't test until Weds but quite certain it hasn't worked. Are you testing today? Loads of good thoughts for you. xxx

[Littlelantern]

Hoping those cramps are a good sign for you!! Driven myself mad, tested yesterday afternoon and got a faint positive! Couldn't believe it. Done 2 tests today and have both been negative so not holding out any hope now. Will do one more test tomorrow morning.
Thank you and all those good thoughts back to you! X

[meadowlark3]

Lantern, oh that's such a rollercoaster, thinking loads of good thoughts for you. Have you tested already today?

I got a massive bleed yesterday, full on cramps and heavy bleeding, gutted but somewhat relieved that it happened before test day. Instructed by clinic to continue progesterone pessaries and test tomorrow, but absolutely certain it didn't stick. I'm shattered. Between feeling happy that we have two frozen embryos and can try again in a few months, feeling sure that this failed because my body was probably way to sensitive to stims and down regulation, and then feeling convinced that we probably haven't got any chromosomally normal embryos so what's the point X

[Littlelantern]

Oh meadowlark, maybe it's good that they told you to carry on? Have read that some people have said they've just been told to stop. Sorry that's happened. Really hoping for you for tomorrow x

Mines failed, negative test this morning. I need to ring the clinic I feel so numb. Can't believe it, I know there's only a small chance of it working but I still feel shocked. Like you I have 2 frozen then that's my last go and then what. If I think about after that I want to cry. Feel like my body just can't hold it we've got no other problems, good eggs, good sperm, responded well to meds. It's just me I can't do the last bit x

[meadowlark3]

Oh Lantern, sending you a big hug. Gutted for you and hope you have a good cry. It's bloody awful, I'm in exactly the same position. This is our NHS go and reckon we can't afford a private one any time soon. Adoption is also probably too expensive for us and another 4-5 years of waiting.

I've been reading that if a good embryo is transferred it's likely a chromosomal problem that keeps it from implanting, so I'm terrified that our two Frosties will also not stuck, but at the same Time hopeful that this was just bad luck and my womb unhappy from all of the stim hormones. I've no idea how I could face this devastation again but I can't imagine not trying for FET. At least I will have open eyes for the next go.

I believe my clinic requires 2-3 months before trying a FET-is it the same for you? X

[Littlelantern]

Thank you meadow. Half of me was expecting it after so long of trying you it's what happens every month anyway. But it's just heartbreaking what you go through. Both feeling really emotional.
I haven't called them yet can't bring myself to do it. Hoping we can start soon with the FET because I'm terrible at waiting. Worrying like you that I'll do it again just to fail. I don't know if I can face adoption but I can't imagine never having a child.
Have you got one more go on NHS? Hope that you are ok xx

[Littlelantern]

Just called the clinic and they said carry on with progesterone till Friday and re-test then... I know my period is coming. I had Pizza Hut and bottle of wine in mind to drown my sorrows this eve ... x

[meadowlark3]

Hi Lantern, pizza and wine sound well deserved. My two frozen transfers will be funded but after that we are on our own, so would need to save for a while before funding another round. My clinic said minimum two months before trying a frozen cycle. But the more failure I face the more real not having a child seems and it just gets more painful to imagine. I know they are having much better results with frozens now but it honestly feels naive and foolish to hope for anything to be different next time. I actually let myself think for a moment that maybe we would fall naturally whilst waiting for our frozen cycle, but now back to being gutted I'm sure I'll have my chin up again soon.

I'll keep everything crossed for you for a different result on Friday. Hope you are feeling alright today xx

[zippybear]

Wow Salva you have a lot of infertile friends and relatives.... unless this is more spam for ukranian clinic?!

[Littlelantern]

Didn't see what Salva posted....

Hope you are ok Meadow. Got my follow up appointment in 2 weeks so will see what they say. Hope you have yours soon, onto the next... fingers crossed for us xx