Multiple failures, a place to chat

[Zippybear]

Anyone else out there with multiple failures wondering what to do next? We've just had our fourth embryo transfer fail. Issues on both sides. In the last year I've had two surgeries, dh has had one and we are still no further forward. We haven't had a holiday that wasn't time off for ivf since 2015. We feel battered and bruised and stuck on a hellish infertility rollercoaster that we can't get off unless we want to accept childlessness we have another nhs cycle but I'm not sure I can cope with it (or if there is any point). I don't know whether to give up, think of donor, adoption or just accept our lot. Anyone else wondering the same?

I get marketing targeted towards new mums on Facebook/Amazon too, not sure why?!!
Please don't disappear completely to reddit, this thread is quiet enough!

Good morning, was just wondering how everyone was and how you are all managing in the snow.

I'm rather isolated here but warm and have dogs so can't complain. Dh is a hill farmer and the snow here is fifteen foot in places. We are unfortunately lambing in some areas and have lost a lot of lambs. The sheep on higher ground have not been seen for days and today's mission is to try and dig a path to get to them and see if they made it. Tensions are running high all round, understandably.

We have power and coal and I am just spending days cooking and baking for all the staff. They are staying in the cottage next door as nobody can get in or out yet.

How are things with you all? Anyone around to chat would be most welcome. Feeling a little lonely but that's no big deal really given what's going on outside.

I made it out this afternoon. We’re semi rural so it was a bit of an endeavour but I was going stir crazy.

I’ve found all the Facebook pictures of people with their kids hard. Most of the time I can shake it off but being stuck in really didn’t help.

Lambing in this weather must be so difficult fourpaws. Sending good vibes to you and your ewes. We’ve got some in the fields around us and I feel sorry for the poor little ones arrriving to this weather. Stay warm and well fed!

I feel lucky that we live in a town so we are never too cut-off (although that can be a good and a bad thing I suppose, I grew up in a rural area and sometimes it would be nice to be properly away from people but I think in practice I am too used to being near civilisation now). It must be terrible to have this much snow right in the lambing season, fourpaws, I hope you found your missing sheep and that they are OK. Pretty much all our snow disappeared yesterday and hopefully that's the same for you, not sure what part of the UK you are in.

I found this, also on reddit, via the other reddit page: www.reddit.com/r/trollingforababy/ - basically it's just a bunch of intertility/ttc memes, some of which are pretty funny.

It is less than a month to what should have been my due date (the really bad thing about miscarrying after IVF is that even if you don't get to your booking appointment your due date is burned into your memory for all time). Never felt less like 'celebrating' mother's day in my life, trying to push all thoughts of what could have been out of mind.

Hi guys - I hope you don't mind me posting - have been reading from afar! I have just had our 4th failed Ivf cycle and we had agreed this was our last cycle. Everything feels completely surreal - I never thought this would happen to us and always though we would have our biological could / being pregnant was all I ever wanted. We are going to be looking at the adoption route but will take a little time for us to grieve what we can never have. I just feel so lonely and have no idea how to get past this x

Hi guys - I hope you don't mind me posting - have been reading from afar! I have just had our 4th failed Ivf cycle and we had agreed this was our last cycle. Everything feels completely surreal - I never thought this would happen to us and always though we would have our biological could / being pregnant was all I ever wanted. We are going to be looking at the adoption route but will take a little time for us to grieve what we can never have. I just feel so lonely and have no idea how to get past this x

Morning all. Just a message to say I am thinking of you all today. I don't know how I would have got through the last few years without you all.

Sending a hug to each of you.

Paws

Sending so much love to the bravest women I know (we've never met but I feel like I know you all).

And to the recent poster - change your 'user' to something we can all recognise. I remember the names of all the posters on here and this thread helps a lot. Xxx

Hi @TipsNotHacks have changed my name from user! Sorry I didn't realise it had posted by post twice the other day either!

Hi Louise - fab, will look out for you welcome to the thread that no one deserves to be a part of. Hope today is a gentle to you as possible x

to you all and a massive 🖕 to Mother's day. It can fuck off. You're all ace though

Sorry you find yourself here Louise but you're very very welcome

Xx

Banana - I'm with you on that, FU MD.

Bigger - sounds good to me. Something about the fact it's rolled in for 40 odd pages is depressing. I arrive at the first page and always think before I click to the latest is "how the F am I STILL here??!".

I vow if I ever become a mother I will never fall for this MD bollocks.

In other news, I'm currently researching ARGC for my 5th cycle...I've been lured by the magical tales of the fertility boot camp.

New thread 2 here >>>>>>>>>>>>

Thinking of you all today, fellow failures. To feel less alone in this shitshow is priceless, so I'm very thankful to have you all.

Hi @Zippybear really sorry that things are not working out. We have just had our 4th failed cycle and have decided that that is enough. Feeling immensely sad and can't actually believe that this is happening to us. It's been one hell of a journey but we are both emotionally exhausted. For us we are looking into adoption as we think that's the best option. Where are your thoughts right now? X

Hi guys, found this thread and wondered if it was still active (new to Mumsnet, now an old hand at failed IVF, losing babies and recurrent miscarriage). You may have all just saved my shit this week after finding out our last IVF round at CRGH has not worked. Despite our consultant there telling us it would work.
A brief history of my shit show: 38. Trying since 32. Unexplained infertility. Did IVF at Guys for the first time at 35, got pregnant, lost it at 12 weeks. Had five embryos left. None of them worked. Moved onto CRGH and now find ourselves at the end of the line. Cannot believe it has come to this. Feels like we are the last ones standing so to find you guys on this thread has been a real comfort. You honestly couldn't fucking make this all up could you?

While I'm at it, we complained at Guys about people bringing in their babies while trying for no.2 as it bloody crucified the rest of us. The staff totally agreed it was unwanted and despite them having words people carried on doing it. So even in this shit game there are still the selfish ones!

Look forward to hearing from any of you, today my fifth failed implantation bleed started and the thought of adoption - while wonderful - has me shitting it as well. Respect to all you troopers on here xxx

@Wouldswopmycat - I'm not part of this group (I am a very old lurker on the thread) but if you look about 3 or 4 posts below yours you'll see a link to a new active thread where I think the group continues?

I didn't want you to miss it

Hi @Wouldswopmycat please come and join us on the uber barrens thread xx