My clinic told me to test again after 2 days.

Also advised me that i wouldn't properly come one until i stopped taking the pessaries.

Speak to your clinic ask for the nurse or doctor who did tour scans.

Hi, I'm really sorry about your failed cycle. I think it looks extremely unlikely your test was a false negative. The progesterone probably kept your period at bay this time. Your period should probably appear within a few days of stopping the meds.

So cruel like you said after paying sooo much money, logically you should have sonething to show for it.

My partner hates the fact that we're forced to put down money on a roulette table in effect. None of it is a sure thing, we're all just hoping to get lucky. The whole thing is a gamble and we're all addicted.

Each time convincing youself this time it will work.

My fear is that my partner will say enough is enough long before i do!

What is right for you, only you and your partner know.

Were all three cycles the same?

I'm sorry you have to deal with the unfairness of all this. Only you and your partner will know when it's time to walk away. My advice is to take the time to deal with the immediate devastation of the failed cycle and then think about what you might like to do next. Do take advantage of counselling if it is on offer from your clinic, I found it to be a great help. Personally, I found the money and personal resilience to keep going. 2 years on I still have nothing to show for it, but I stand by that decision and fortunately I am also not in debt because of it. I greatly admire those who have the strength to walk away and get on with their lives. It's a brave choice, but I believe after the initial grieving period it is possible to come out the other side.

My first fresh cycle of ICSI/IVF failed on November 13th 2015 and we're now waiting for results of the FET (frozen embryo transfer) from the leftovers from the fresh cycle.

I'm not ready to stop. I would hate myself and regret not continuing to our goal. I am quite a stubborn person! Finances could/would and are becoming an issue but it will mean not going on holiday I imagine and for me I'll happily take out a credit card. I currently have no debt so maybe it's easier for me to say this.

I think if we need the 3rd go and it fails, this will be where my partner will want to quit. He hates the NO guarantee side of it all and the fact that it sometimes all seems to be down to luck.

Grade A ...well done you, to accomplish this I'm sure made things tougher for you when it isn't the result you long for.

We had the consultant say to us everything was perfect apart from that last hurdle. Then they talk about how implantation is the part they know least about.

My fresh cycle was 2x grade B's and the frozen is 2x grade C's.

It is so tough, the kinda of thing you don't ever envisage having to worry about.

Yeah I'm sure the two we had frozen and now transferred inside, needed that extra day to develop (day 6).

In London it cost us the initial £900 to freeze and then £1,100 to do frozen cycle. Drugs cost only £131 odd compared to the £1,300 for drugs on fresh cycle. So should be cheaper if you've been doing it abroad.

I was told if I was 40 or over that's the only time HEFA governing body allow you to put more than three. ( I am 36 almost 37).

Do they have reason to be concerned about your blood pressure?

I too read of a case where the top graded eggs didn't work out but the poor quality did. In which case why do they bother to grade them !!?!!?

Most people don't understand unfortunately and we just become the forlorn friends and family to others.

The success rate when the frozen eggs to thaw is 80-85%.

We had three frozen but one wasn't developing so well after being thawed, so it wasn't recommended that we refreeze.

Blondes, I’ve had 4 IVFs where I had embryos transferred, including one bfp then mc, plus I underwent a few more which were cancelled for various reasons. I’m 40 with very low egg reserve which means the chance of success is very much reduced.

It sounds like you are producing a good number of quality embryos, which is encouraging. If I was in your shoes I would at least go back to use up all the remaining embryos, you’ve come so far and all that… Once you get to your 40s, chances of multiples if you get 2 or even 3 put back are quite low. In the UK, I think HEFA suggests one embryo for age 37 and under, max 2 embryos ages 38-39, and max 3 for age 40 and over. The one time I had 2 embryos, I put both back in as although I actually don’t want to have twins, I would much prefer it to no baby at all. Do you have a specific medical condition that means that’s a risk you can’t take?

hyland, blondes I’m on the berries thread with other ladies over 30 ttc no.1 for over a year. There’s quite a few of us at various stages of investigations and treatment and they are a very knowledgeable bunch if either of you fancied dropping in.

Blondes, thank you. Will you have a follow up appointment? It sounds like you have a few questions to ask your clinic. What country are you being treated in by the way?

Hi Ladies
I'm in exactly the same boat right now.
I had my fresh embryo transfer 2 weeks and 4 days ago and it was negative on tests but I've had no period what so ever.
Mild symptoms such as nausea, headaches, metallic taste in my mouth and my cervix is still so high. Clinic have said to wait until Wednesday and if still no period I will need to go in for a scan.
I'm quite scared to be honest!

Interested to see what your outcome was?
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