So frustrated

[CT2014]

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 14 months. We got pregnant after 2 months, however that resulted in miscarriage. A year later and we are still not pregnant. I just had a HSG xray and that showed my tubes were fine. My husband had a sperm test and that showed low morphology. Every month is the same. Starts out hopeful only to end in despair when I start my period. I spend the next few days upset and crying at seeing another month gone bye with no success. I tend to perk up eventually because I realize there's a chance to try again. But I feel like every month is torture. We'll start the new year starting to talk to doctors about treatments. However I'm not sure what to do first.

Im so sorry youvare going through this. I had one dc, then got divorced from dickweed exh whonleft when I was 6 wks pg.

Met and married DH, was starting ttc, when I had complications (major cancer cells). 6 months of burning, freezing, cutting them out all the while being told they would get everything, was no biggy and I could start ttc again. Then bamo, things were getting worse, constantly bleeding and emergency total hysterectomy.

I was gutted. My DH had "no bio children " and I felt I let him down, but he adopted my son and is the perfect dad.

Dont give up! I hope the New Year is kind to you and you are pg in no time. But have some while you can and with ir. Thinking of you and praying things turn around.

Hi CT

I also had a mc after getting pregnant quickly when we started ttc. We've been trying for 2.5 years.

You're doing the right thing going to the doctor. How old are you? That may have a bearing on how quickly you'll be referred to the fertility specialist. You should be referred right away though if DH has low morphology. They may try IUI or go straight for IVF. I'm not really sure what happens with low morphology, there are ladies on the IVF threads who may be able to help with any questions.

Being seen by a specialist will help you feel more in control and I find that really helps.

I hope you get seen soon and all goes well for you

I'm sorry things seem so hopeless. It is the most frustrating, all consuming thing. My husband and I have faced infertility and had to go down the IVF route. My advice is to book an appointment at a clinic and go investigate your options. Once you start you will at least feel as though things are progressing and moving in the right direction and that will make you feel more posititve and in control.

In the meantime I would say that the only way though the misery is to be busy. Book some nice meals, days out, spa days and try to avoid people/places filled with children.

You can read about my rollercoaster of IVF and then a late pregnancy loss at www.wakeupsurvivesleep.com. I am pregnant again and totally petrified. Modern medicine is amazing and even though its an anxiety filled journey I believe it will work out. You must too.

Everything you feel, I have felt. Be strong and don't give up. xxx