Results from the Terri Schiavo autopsy made public

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Well I for one was keen to hear this and am pleased her husband was proved right - I found he was villified by many....
the report

I'm glad it's all been laid to rest.

Will it be laid to rest???? parents are very bitter....

But can they argue with the post mortem findings?

I read on CNN that they did!

I don't know why he couldn't have just let the parents keep their daughter as a vegetable for as long as they wanted. It just seems so cruel. He could have gotten divorced anyway, the insurance was paying for the hospital. Why couldn't he have let that poor family keep their daughter even if she really was a vegetable. It made them happy. And yes, I know she said she didn't want to be kept alive in that way, but she wouldn't have known the difference, and I bet if she had known how much pain it would have caused her parents to take out the tubes, she would have been happy for them to keep her alive.

i couldn't disagree more sofia. if i asked my dh to ensure that something happened if i was incapacitated, i would expect him to do that. he absolutely had to do that.

I on the other hand would expect my dh to respect my parents wishes as well. I think that they, as my parents (and very good ones at that) deserve as much of, and perhaps even more of, a say in my welfare than my dh.

No they have been proved wrong and from what I have heard of the court cases, have done what they did in a deeply unpleasant way, not acting in their daughters best interest, only their own.

i deeply believe her parents acted in a totally selfish way - putting their emotional needs before that of their daughters- she should of been allowed to die with grace and dignity a long time ago.

If it was my dd lying there, I too might need to believe that somehow there was still hope, just to get through the day.

You might think that you will think that, but if it actually came to it and there was a chance she might be lying there in pain with no quality of life I'm fairly sure you would feel differently. On the unit in which I work it is very unsual for the relatives to disagree with the conclusion the doctors have drawn re, continued treatment.

I have to be honest and say I would be HORRIFIED if I knew that parents would try and override wishes which my DH was trying to carry out with the reasoningn "well she's our daughter".

When I married my DH, "we" became a unit together. HE is now my closest next of kin IMO, and knows better than my parents what my wishes should be.

Also - think about your parents, if they were desperately ill and had no chance of recovering and they'd said that they really didn't want to be kept alive artificialy or resucitated would you go against their wishes - because they're your parents and you want to keep them alive as long as possible?? I know I couldn't - I'm not saying it would be easy to let them go, but I'd probably feel guilty for a long time if I went against their wishes.

There was a case like this in Dublin a few years ago, the parents went public recently. It was the parents who wanted the tubes removed, with support of the family, but the state and hospital needed permission from the court. This was granted but most of the Churh was against the family. The outcome was that he daughter was taken home to die; I wonder would the parents in the Shiavo case have prefeered to take their daughter home? I hope the all find peace now.

gwenick absolutely.

actually think that the parents actions in this case have been horrendously selfish and unhealthy.

sounds like a humane and peaceful end for that dublin patient - unlike the armed guards and media circus for poor terry