she is my ex partners sister.
she had two daughters and a son with her partner. she went ti prison and spent a long time away in either prison or hostels and rehab. all i all she had no contact with the children for about 5 years.
then she came to a family christmas with a new boyfriend.
she said she was clean but obviously we all had our doubts.
she then revealed she was pregnant bvy this new boyfriend. the baby was born very small but ok.
after a few months she came back to the children and said that she had been evicted from her hostel and could she stay with the children and their dad. stupidly (he still to this day loves her dearly) he agreed.
we all helped her get her own place and she seemed ok. we were all a little worried that she began to have a relationship of sorts with the first 3 childrens dad - lets just call him Bob.
she then got evicted from that house becasue she was spending a lot of time with Bob and allowing her "friends" stay at her house.
she then fell pregnant again telling us all it was Bob's child.
Bob helped her get back on her feet, bought the buggy and other items needed for the baby ( he is also on benefits)
She has the baby, for the first time ever she has a happy healthy chubby little baby.
all seems ok for a short time but then when the baby is about 6 months old she tells us she is getting married to a man none of us have heard anything about and have never met.
they get married at a registery office and he ends up beating the barman to a pulp at teh reception (held in a local pub as it was the first place they drive past on the way home from teh wedding) in fornt of all the children.
Bob is obviously very concerned about the fact that his children were there and his new baby is living with a man who is clealry not stable. she tells him "tough shit its none of your business she aint even yours"
it transpires that she has been carrying on with this man for some time and the baby is in fact his but he was living with another woman at the time so couldnt help her financially and therefore she latched back onto Bob.
i left my partner not long after this but i am told she now has another child by her new husband, she has bribed her eldest daughter to live with her (giving her money for drink-she is 13- allowing her to go out till all hours of the night, allowing her to skip school, steal from shops, swear etc etc ) and has completly poisened her against her dad.
the 2nd daughter is now having a hard relationshio with her dad becasue althoguh she realises her sister is wrong for doing what she does and hates teh fact that she has wiped their dad from her life she is also very jealous of the money and attention she gets.
The offer of £10k happened before i met my ex but from what i know she innitially agreed to the money. even took a "deposit" of £1000.
she got completley wasted and spent the money, then siad that no they were her kids and she couldn't take themf orm her.
With my SIl i don't think its because she loved them at all , it was leverage. she knew that whilst she had the kids she would always get help from friends and family.
i am glad that she is apparantly turnign herself around. she will never be a model parent but just being there and sober is a start.
i hope with every bone of my body that these two youngest children get as close to normal upbringing as she can mustre.