Tuesday fly Thread-Bedroom Retreat

[EHM]

Mission

Babysteps-Day 3

Hope I've got the the correct Babysteps I am sure shine sink & get dressed are 1 & 2?

I have this morning done:
bleach kitchen after Vic(cat) appears to have brought in the contents of the garden & spread across the kitchen worktops, hob, floor & window sill.
empty dw
prepare breakfast for ellie
cuppa for me
off the get dressed

Morning

Bookmarking for later....

jas hope ds is ok at Nursery today.

Morning jas and EHM.

Nice to have you back jas. Hope DS settles at nursery.

Today
DS gym club
ds homework
dust, hoover
strip beds
laundry

BBlunchtime.

Morning all

I am going to try and get back to some normallity this week, so will be taking DS2 to toddlers.

I spoke to the pycologist yesterday and everything we are experiancing is a normal reaction for a 2 year old going through what we are. DS1 is back to his noisy, active normal self, but DS2 is still refusinh sleep, coming in on a night, today is the first day he has some breakfast for me (the thing is that eating is one thing he can control).

SO we have a plan of action - he will come to the hopital with me for my visits in the hope that he gets that I will not stay in.

I am not to change his routines and once I am able to lift etc, we will start doing some confidence exercises, but one great thing is she confirmed we are doing every thing we can and should and he will not remember any of this.

Morning Routine

Up and dressed - done
S&S - done
Make Beds - done
Empty Dishwasher - done
Breakfast - done
Wash Breakfast Pots
Robbie to Preschool
Hang Out washing/washing in dryer - 1st load hung out
Washer back on
Sort out lunchtime meal
Mum and Toddlers -
Collect DS1

Lunchtime Routine

Feed the boys
Tidy and wash lunchtime pots
Sweep dining room floor and clean table
Lunch for me
Ironing
Sort Dinner for all
Mission

Evening Routine

Dinner for Boys
Load Dishwasher and clean Dining room
Bath Boys
Get their clothes out for tomorrow
Tidy Toys
Load washing machine
Start the dishwasher
Shine Sink
Get my clothes out for tomorrow
Read a book

Jas Hope nursery goes OK for DS

I will be back after preschool drop off

Morning all.

Up 20 mins early today and it has made big diff. All dressed, sink shined and breakfast cleared away etc.

I was up an hour earlier today. So I watered garden (v.dry and sunny here) and was able to get a bit ahead with PE kits etc..

Done
garden watered
cat chat
children chat
PE kits sent to school
waterbottles
summer uniform on!!!so much easier with no ties
found recipient for outgrown shorts
dcs made their beds
violin practice dd - coaxed into it
everyone to school in a good mood and on time

TO DO

TIDYING ROUTINE:
rubbish in bin
recycling in outside bin
s & s baths, loos and basins
brief tidy of playroom (looking for lost library book in process)
and brief tidy of frontroom
wash on
brief tidy of hall
take in delivery from milkman
to be finished by 10.00!

Then extras for today
find stickers for starchart
plan picnic food for after school - any errands write down
tidy back yard of old plastic pots and bags
tidy out small shed of old pots
SOW some seeds, leave some for dcs to help with
5 mins weeding
put all garden tools in one place so that I can find them
decide what's for dinner when veg box comes

Morning Routine

Wash Breakfast Pots - Done
DS1 to Preschool - done
Hang Out washing/washing in dryer - 1st load hung out
Washer back on - done and hung out
Sort out lunchtime meal
Mum and Toddlers - going in a min
Collect DS1

Lunchtime Routine

Feed the boys
Tidy and wash lunchtime pots
Sweep dining room floor and clean table
Lunch for me
Ironing
Sort Dinner for all
Mission

Evening Routine

Dinner for Boys
Load Dishwasher and clean Dining room
Bath Boys
Get their clothes out for tomorrow
Tidy Toys
Load washing machine
Start the dishwasher
Shine Sink
Get my clothes out for tomorrow
Read a book

I have also

Put dw on a self clean
changed filter in kettle
swopped summer clothes around for the boys
looked for a new wetsuit for DS1
Got some spare clothes out for the car
Cleaned downstairs loo

Right off to toddlers, will have to wake DS2 who has fallen asleep!!

Morning all
mad glad pyschologist put your mind at rest. I'm sure DS2 will be back to his old self in no time!
jas ehm scatty ev Hi!
swan an impressive list - good luck!

Well unlike others we were up late here today!! Still recovering from the trip it seems!
Slight chaos getting to school but all there with right things so not too bad!

To Do:
tidy girls bedrooms
bathrooms S&S
Hang out washing
Sort dinner (spag bol to go in slow cooker)
sweep and mop
Hoover lounge and stairs
clean washing away
Pop to Morrisons for bag of half price compost (oh that reminds me I discovered a wasps nest in the bottom of my compost bin yesterday - need to work out what to do about it!)
Plant up tomato plants
bake

DS2 and DD4 very clingy today though...so not sure how far I'll get...

Right better crack on BBL ladies!

Hi all.
TMH Glad the psychologist put your minds at rest.

I have ingredients for flap jacks now and also soup. So will crack on with those two in a mo.

Also need to put washing out and put another load on. Nearly reached the bottom!

Not sunny here yet. But i can see blue sky emerging! And it is quite warm.

Ok i won't be hanging my washing out just yet! My ignorant neighbour has a bonfire! What is it with my neighbours? Both sides don't care what time of day they light one. Even if i have washing out already.

morning all,
book marking for later.

TMH, Sometimes I feel I need to take my dtwins to a child pyschologist. Then we are patient, and I feel I can handle it after all. Sometimes it is reassuring to hear other parents having similar responses from their dcs. I think they pick up on stressful situations very very quickly, and it's just the way they react which seems so out of our control. They don't say, "I'm sad because you are sad," or "I need you with me and I don't want you to go", but instead "go away", or "not eating this", or "look at me I'm going to hit my brother see if you can stop me".
I think the most difficult thing in the world is just accepting the violence of their emotions and not taking it as a personal attack. And trying to help them choose less extreme reactions to situations.
Anyway do sympathise with the added burden of worrying about ds2. He probably is just testing testing to reassure himself that you are you and safely home.

Swan You are so right about childre. DS2 is controlling the only things he can - sleep and eating. I am not concerned, just , as he was such a happy, easy going, easy living child. He was the polar opp of DS1 who is and always has been challenging.

Anyway back from toddlers and preschool collection
Dealt with meltdown from DS1, who wants the wii and mummy said no

The other thing that is hard is that they have had someones attnetion 100% of the time whilst I have been ill, now it is just me and them again and they need to get back some of the independant play!!!

Ho hum

Off to sort lunch and bring dry washing in

They go through so many phases don't they? Dd used to be such a sweet helpful little toddler, playing happily with saucepans, bustling around, slept brilliantly, then a 3-5 year old from hell (who still slept brilliantly though), ds1 was awful when he was about 3 for a year, sweet after that if you take homework out of equation, ds2 was a perfectly awful 1 year old who kept spitting food out and never slept, and then completely adorable (in my eyes anyway) till 5 or 6.
So although I suppose I discern patterns in their behaviour, I never sure who will be the next one to worry about

Hi again.

Mad - swan is right, they do go through extreme phases anyway (without added chaos). You think you know your child then they completely change! DD was always really placcid until about 3 then developed a very spirited streak lol. Actually I was quite pleased as DS has always had spirit and I was worried that dd was too compliant!

Galen - hope you are starting to get back to normal after your difficult trip. I am going to see Dad and stepmum (who is terminally ill) this weekend, not taking dc this time. I want to see how Dad is.

To do
add tel sis and dad to list.

swan those are very wise words, so wise in fact that I think I am going to print them out and stick them into my diary.

Washing is out.
Soup and flapjacks cooked.

TMH Good advice from Swan.

I am having a look through the cupboard to see what i can stick on Ebay.

You know what Ladies - this thread is my lifeline, one of you will always know the right thing to say. It is like having an oracle in my pocket - Thankyou for being here

Done

DS1's bed changed and in the washer - spilt drink, so am going to use this op to change to summer weight quilt and wash winter weight one and pack away.

Lunchs done and tidied
DS2 napping

I have sorted through my drawer and moved all my bra's - I was a little in mourning
I have also sorted T-shirts and vests (as I am living in them)

To Do's

whats for dinner
Take mum to Morrisons (she has had her 4th gold injection this am)
Sort out seeds for planting

Back from Morrisons and mum has come back too!!!

shopping packed away
DS2 behaved, DS1 was terrible
Duvet hung out to dry

Boys dinner is to be cooked in a mo and prepare the curry for me and DH.

Anyone heard from Wendy?

Stinky pet food???

Done:
dusting
floors
laudry
kids fed

To do
ds homework
ds gym club
tel calls

? mission .

Done
planted potatoes in brightly coloured pots
sowed red sunflower seeds
swept front and back paving
weeding
cleared out a bit of fridge, and put away veg milk eggs
dealt with recycling
found library book
tidied playroom, kitchen and upstairs
put away all summer clothes ds2 has 8 pairs of slightly outsize shorts ridiculous where have they all come from?
put away winter uniform, too small clothes in box for loft
Have found lots of last year's summer clothes for me, feel depressed by thought of having to wear them again, they were boring enough last year but unfortunately serviceable and durable..
prepared picnic
ds1 to gaelic football
dts picnic in park on tablecloth

To do
supper spicy version for dh, plain for kids

But house still looks very tired...and full of detritus oh dear will press on tomorrow
see you tomorrow everyone.

Prof That smelly pet food factory is behind my house! It is huge and ugly and was very smelly! Smell has improved now though. Missed it on the news but saw BBC van and camera on way to school.

Were you on the telly tort?

I'm sure you could ruin some of your summer clothes in the wash and buy some more swan. I do it all the time .

Done:
ds tiny bit of homework!
ds to gym club
tel calls made (sitting in car outside gym club - TG for mobile phones).
Fruit bought
laundry done

BBtomorrow xx