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September Flylady: Fledglings inspired to make a fresh start at the beginning of a brand new term!

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mixedpeel · 31/08/2026 17:02

Whether you're starting to build a new routine, stuck in a rut, or been around for years, join us on the monthly Flylady thread! Flylady has created a series of daily and weekly prompts to help anyone who finds it tricky to get or keep their house clean and tidy. She totally gets it if you feel overwhelmed or don't even know where to start - as do we! The best thing about Flylady is that you are never behind - just jump in at whatever point you are at, and do what you can.

This is a long running thread, but as a newbie myself I can confirm everyone is very friendly and all are welcome to join in. We spur each other on, but also commiserate when life gets in the way and we don't get as much done as we might have wanted to.

There are 5 zones that we will rotate through:
☀️Entryway, porch and dining room
☀️Bathroom & one other room
☀️Kitchen
☀️Master bedroom & master bathroom
☀️Living room
We usually link to the daily missions (jobs to do in whichever zone we're in) every day, but the new website doesn't seem to be working for me right now. I will keep trying, but they should update every day so you can click the link yourself to check. We will post the missions in the thread too so don't worry about missing anything. Most importantly, don't worry about finishing it all this month, it'll come around again next month! Flylady is NOT about perfectionism!

Do NOT sign up for the Flylady emails - it's an excessive amount sent every day. I have taken one for the team but use a junk email address. I will check them periodically and report anything interesting / useful

Flylady also tries to help us get into habits so that eventually we do things without even having to think about them. She has 31 baby steps to gradually pick up (on the previous website, since the link isn't working on the new site yet): https://mymerrymessylife.com/flylady-31-baby-steps/

Daily focus: each day of the week has a different focus. It's not all jobs jobs jobs by the way.
Monday: Home Blessing (or as we call it, home bleugh)
Tuesday: plan & play
Wednesday: anti-procrastination
Thursday: errand day
Friday: clean car & purse out day. It's also date night (with your significant other, or friends, or yourself!)
Saturday: family fun day
Sunday: renew your spirit

If you can, it's worth downloading the app (link on the flylady website), you can even have it send you notifications. You can also modify the tick lists to suit your home & lifestyle. There is a paid version and a free version, though the missions haven't been updating on the free app.

Feel free to ask any questions you may have, some posters here have been doing Flylady for a very long time, and others are just starting out. We may have other things to add that we have found works for us that could help you too!

Common acronyms we use:
LOL: load of laundry (washing is certainly NOT funny!)
DW: dishwasher, we are not rotating wives by any means, although an extra pair of hands could come in handy sometimes 😆
S&S: Swish & Swipe (wipe the bathroom sink & toilet)
LMS: lose/lost my shit
DNLMS: did not lose my shit
There are probably more, feel free to ask us to explain something!

Fly Lady

Welcome!

https://www.flylady.net/daily-mission

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PamelaColmansMustard · 12/09/2026 16:45

@HazelNotHungryLC I'm the same at the moment with the garden - autumn's definitely set in and there's a shed load of weeding to do, but I'm just not feeling it.

Had a nice day just cross stitching, dishes done after lunch/dinner/main meal. Really chuffed as a long storage bag arrived from Amazon which I can fit my other knitting machine into, along with a load of the accessories for it. All zipped away and stored under the piano - it's black so it's not obtrusive. I'll be able to get under the bed and give that area a damn good clean, but it can wait until the bedroom zone comes around. It's great not feeling like I have to Do It Now. I mean, I could, but I'm not.

I feel like the years of decluttering and finding "homes" for stuff is finally paying off.

ExpertlyDecluttering · 12/09/2026 18:02

I'm back, we've all been away for a few days so lots to catch up on. DH has come home ill, DS has been at work so DD and I have ploughed through 5 LOLs, luckily it was perfect drying weather today.

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CherryogDog · 12/09/2026 20:28

TaDa!!!! I finally finished the deep clean/ declutter of my kitchen.
I've been quite ruthless throwing stuff away or putting in the charity pile.
But I was floored by a cardboard box of all things.
When I moved from my old house (I got into debt and needed to move somewhere cheaper) I was incredibly stressed, packing up 17 years of stuff.
I was collecting Pepito bird seed boxes from Lidl, perfect size for book etc (and making tops from old pizza boxes, lol), and I came across the last surviving box.
And I bloody cried my eyes out ffs. What a loon!
Anyway, I'm glad it's done. No cleaning tomorrow but might go to the Range for some new tea caddies.

PeonyBulb · 12/09/2026 21:05

I’ve had an extremely stressful week so not many big TaDas but I’ve done some little ones

Ta Das

🫟 Cleaned outside of Espresso machine
🫟 Cleaned outside of Bread maker
🫟 Cleaned inside and outside of Microwave
🫟 Cleaned air fryer
🫟 S&S
🫟 Washed all bedding
🫟 LOL
🫟 Cleaned toilet
🫟 Cleaned hob
🫟 Emptied all bins
🫟 Washed cutlery tray
🫟 Cleared Fridge of unnecessary items

mixedpeel · 12/09/2026 21:51

@KitsyWitsy sounds like you’re definitely making the most of Family Fun Day!

@Alwaysgrowing congrats on doing the full morning routine!

@PamelaColmansMustard your talk of cross stitching reminds me I still haven’t even started my friend’s card. That’s a definite To Do for the coming week.

@HazelNotHungryLC exciting that you’re seeing DD soon. Hope the dresser transportation goes smoothly.

@ExpertlyDecluttering hope you’ve had a relaxing holiday despite DH getting ill. He’s not having much luck lately is he?! Satisfying to get all those LOLs done and dried.

Oh @CherryogDog, your description of finding that very last box from a difficult time in your life was really moving. Hope the cry was mostly cathartic. Amazing to have completely finished the kitchen declutter! That’s a really big deal.

@PeonyBulb sorry you’ve had such a stressful week. I thought of you the other day when I parked my car on a street near work. When I returned to it, a mum was helping her adult daughter ferry assorted giant bags and boxes of things from the car to one of the nearby flats. She caught my eye and said “I am so looking forward to having my house back!”

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PeonyBulb · 12/09/2026 22:25

@mixedpeel ha 😂 yes DD is off to uni next weekend so I will miss her. Not entirely sure how much of her piles of stuff she’ll be taking. But I’ll look forward to putting most of what’s left up in the loft and scrubbing her room from top to bottom. I want to buy some reliable, large, sturdy laundry bags with zips.

I’m stressed because DS is going through some issues and has kept things to himself which in turn has had a huge impact on him. But it can hopefully be resolved to a point. Eventually. Some parts will take longer.

HedgehogNotes · 13/09/2026 06:59

@PeonyBulb sorry your DS is going through stuff and kept it quiet. Hope he feels better now that you know. Secret stress can gnaw away at you, can't it? Wishing you well as you work through it together.

I'm still away from home this weekend so not much flying. Except that whilst out shopping yesterday I remembered our Christmas chat so I bought Christmas cards and then I bought a birthday present for a friend. So two errands dome and it felt like guilt free shopping because its for other people.

mixedpeel · 13/09/2026 09:31

Sunday 13th September

Another lo-fly day. Sunday is Renew Your Spirit day, so do whatever that means for you. No missions, no zones.

Babystep 13 is a 15 minute clean or declutter https://mymerrymessylife.com/flylady-31-baby-steps/13/
I hadn’t picked up before how the babysteps are not necessarily 31 different things to do They are instilling just a few really important principles. Here we have another reminder of the power of 15 minutes.

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mixedpeel · 13/09/2026 09:37

Ouch, @PeonyBulb, hard relate to the DS keeping things to himself. One of ours is that way inclined. He is currently back at home after finishing uni and is pretty much a Man of Mystery. We have had similar sudden blips over the years and have been wondering if something is going on for him.

Hope your DS can find a way through, especially now he’s been able to share with you. It’s harder when they’re older too because we can’t just swoop in and sort it out.

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WattTheHell · 13/09/2026 09:51

Hi Flyladies! Hope you don’t mind another member joining?

I’m still reading from page 1 of this thread, you all inspire me so much to get on top of things.

The wheels have come off recently and today I’m going pull myself together and get on top of the place. Everything is a mess and the little Watts need order again.

Also, I wanted to say I’m sorry that you have found your son has been troubled recently @PeonyBulb It’s really upsetting but hopefully now a little door of communication has been opened.

I’m going to come back later to see what you all have done. Off to get dressed to shoes now and start to sort out the kitchen

Happy Sunday everyone 🍀

ExpertlyDecluttering · 13/09/2026 10:14

Morning, thanks @mixedpeel yes, we did have a lovely time, it’s a bit different having family holidays with the DCs now they are adults (no partners) but it’s nice that we can all go off and do our own things and then come back together for others, I did struggle a bit to get to sleep when they didn’t come back to tha apartment till 3am one night (city break) but had to tell myself that they do that at home/uni and can handle themselves, they know to stick together.

@PeonyBulb sorry to hear DS is going through some tough stuff. My DD is off back to uni this week too, but DS is going to have to take her as I’m away again and DH still has his broken arm, there won’t be room for DH to go in the car with them as DS’s car is quite small and he isn’t insured to drive DH’s bigger one, I will miss her but not the clutter. It is going to be weird not getting to see her new house, I’ve seen it from the outside but inside will have to be another time, it’s not far away.

I need to read back through and catch up, but am looking at the giant pile of laundry we got done yesterday. Aaargh. The house generally looks untidy again too, but I have just spend a very peaceful hour tidying my potting shed with the radio on (I know, not a priority but I took my morning cuppa up there because it was raining and I couldn’t sit outside) it does get messy and I have given it a proper reset ready for spring.

PamelaColmansMustard · 13/09/2026 12:03

@ExpertlyDecluttering that sounds like a lovely way to spend a morning, and very much in keeping with renewing your spirit. Need to get out in the garden but rain seems to get in the way 😄

Bathroom S&S and mopped the floor (and the bedroom floor), usual quick "blessing" with rose oil on the cloth from upstairs to down. Knitted one panel of what will hopefully be a long duster style coat thingy, and maybe a bit more cross stitch this afternoon. Have a lovely Sunday, all :)

PeonyBulb · 13/09/2026 17:58

Thank you everyone for your kind words they’re very comforting so I appreciate it I really do.

@ExpertlyDecluttering DD DP is driving her to uni and his Ddad has added him to his insurance for a few days so he can use his bigger car so that might be an option you could consider.

I’ve been doing little TaDas today

🪼 Dusting TV
🪼 Cleaning and tidying coffee table
🪼 dusting mantelpiece
🪼 Neating up everyone else’s little piles of stuff
🪼 S&S

Alwaysgrowing · 13/09/2026 17:58

Hi all. My husband has been reasonably productive today but I just felt overwhelmed by 7:30 as I was up at 5:30 and my family (particularly DH this morning) were being a lot. I actually used chatgbt to go through everything and calm down. It made a useful observation about too many demands. My DH pissed me off, but I didn't turn it into an argument, just kind of shut down and didn't do any cooking or cleaning today. It wasn't a concisious choice. I felt exhausted by 7:30. Tried to have a nap late morning but ds came upstairs. We have the typical male/female housework issues you read about online reversed. Eg two days in a row he has made a negative comment about the way I unloaded the dishwasher/ if I got halfway through something, he might just finish it off while I'm doing something else. So I'm trying to use flylady to have a bit more responsibility around the house. But honestly, if he just wrote me a list it would be easier, but apparently that's unacceptable.

The other reason I didn't do much today as I have some alone time tomorrow. Since I've dropped a working day on Mondays, I have put off doing anything os Sunday as I can do it Monday. I spent time doing Lego with the kids and I watched a show with DD this afternoon.

PeonyBulb · 13/09/2026 18:31

🪼Finally packed up the tent ⛺️ into 2 bags. The ground sheet and inside bedroom attachment did not fit into the original bag only the main tent part, poles and pegs and they were a squeeze to get in. They could at least give you an extra bag knowing that there’s no way on earth it all fits back in there.

Frumpyunicorn · 13/09/2026 20:21

Well done @PeonyBulb that sounds like a real achievement!

Thanks @mixedpeel for the thread, I'm not posting everyday but it is really helping.

Welcome @WattTheHell I've only been doing flylady since August but it's definitely been helping me to feel more in control

I am working really hard to make sure the areas I have cleared (kitchen and bedroom surfaces, bottom of stairs and hall table) remain clear and don't build up again and am slowly working my way into other parts of the house. Currently trying to clear my study at the moment which is a bit of a dumping ground.

I have done half the blessing today and will finish off after work tomorrow. Also going to work on getting my outfit ready the night before I don't manage this consistently but it is one of those little jobs that really seems to help.

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ExpertlyDecluttering · 13/09/2026 23:19

@PeonyBulb DH only got the car in Jan and tried putting DS on the insurance but it wouldn't accept him as it was less than a year since he'd passed his test at that point (it's quite powerful). Also, DS is quite a timid driver and the big car has all sorts of fancy bells and whistles that even I feel a bit daunted by (and I'm a confident driver of 40 years) - things like slowing down if the car in front does, so he'll have to manage. DD is only 30 miles away so I'd be fine to pop back up with more stuff the next week if needed. From past experience she WILL forget things. She left things behind in halls in June amd I had to take her back then 🤦‍♀️.

Anyway, DH felt better today and <drumroll> managed the washing up (for those new to the thread he broke his arm badly last month hence no driving and not much else either, DS and I are taking it in turns to taxi him to work).

I have sorted yesterday's 5xLOL, put mine away, put my clothes out for tomorrow, night all.

Alwaysgrowing · Yesterday 07:30

@ExpertlyDecluttering glad you're husband is doing better. I have an hour before school run with 2 kids and 3 hours alone in the middle of the day, then from about 3:45 I'm home with the kids and dinner is leftovers. Busy day ferrying, as I'll take DD drive to school(edge of our side of town), DS to nursery (centre of town), then to my excersice class (other side of town). Back home for a few hours. Then I'm collecting DS at 1:30 so take him to preschool gym (same venue as excersice class), then straight to school pick up then back home. I'm not dressed. I did find my bump belt which has been really helpful this pregnancy and I had misplaced it in a coat pocket.

Tadas:
Striped and remade DS bed

To do:
Complete morning routine.
Pack bags for today + snacks
Strip DDS bed Bedding in washing machine.
School run/excessise.
Hang up bedding.
Hoover
Clean windows.
2nd school run.

mixedpeel · Yesterday 08:55

A warm welcome to @WattTheHell (excellent name I must say!) If you’ve read through most of the thread you will have gathered that we are a mixture of absolute newbies, relative newbies and more experienced fledglings, so you are in very good company!

I’m fairly new to actually posting on the thread, but have dipped in to read it off and on, and I realised last night that I haven’t always made the start of Flying as clear as I could have. While every day will have a baby step, a daily focus and a mission, there is no expectation that newbies Do It All. In fact no one should be trying to Do It All - Flylady is all about how eventually we will have way more success by getting into ‘good enough’ and ‘little and often’ mindsets.

With that in mind, welcome to a new week everyone! Here is babystep 14, start using a calendar https://mymerrymessylife.com/flylady-31-baby-steps/14/
I have always needed a calendar I can actually see, so we’ve always had one up in the kitchen. When the kids were younger it was one of those family ones with a column for each person. It really did help with seeing what was going on. What I found I didn’t notice after a while was all the birthdays and anniversaries etc I’d also noted in one of the columns. They were always there so didn’t stand out in the same way. I suppose this makes two points: use whatever system actually works for you. Nowadays you can make fantastic use of tech with shared google calendars and the like, but whichever calendar it is, it’s only worth the information you feed it! So Other People really do need to put their stuff on too. But secondly, everyone also needs to actually look at it. The information is useless if no-one actually takes any notice of it. So if your lovely kitchen calendar with birthdays inscribed in your bestest handwriting isn’t drawing your attention, find a different way to remember them!

Monday is Home Blessing/Home Bleugh day
As discussed earlier in the thread, I belatedly realised that Flylady is acknowledging that along with all the sink shining or 15 minute missions, the whole house does actually benefit from a quick surface clean every week. Hence her idea to whiz round and hoover every room on a Monday. This won’t convenient for everyone, but the point still stands - try and spend 10 minutes in each room over the week on a quick once over of any floor or surfaces you can see. Change the bedding and empty all the bins. It’s the regular ‘ticking over’ cleaning that I for one have never really been in the habit of, and leads to real build up of mank and mess if you don’t do it.

New week, new zone! We are now in zone 3, the main bathroom and one other room of your choice
The other room can be different each day, or the same one. Take just 5 minutes each day for a stash and dash (another useful Flylady phrase), sorting through a corner or surface where piles of random stuff have built up. Bit by bit you will put things back where they belong. For some things this will be the bin or recycling!

Mission 1
A grim but necessary mission today; wiping down behind and round the toilet - it won’t take long but is easily missed until it’s really not very nice…

Pick a room for stash and dash, and start with a 5 minute collection of any rubbish or recycling.

Read on for a sneak peek for the rest of the week. I will post them again each day so skip if you’re already losing the will before 9am on a Monday!

Zone 3: Mission #2 Tuesday
Clean out your bathroom bin. Not just tip out the rubbish, but put it into the bath and fill it with hot soapy water. Leave it to soak for a few minutes and then give it a thorough scrub all over, inside and out. Let it dry in the bath and then return it to its rightful place before someone trips over it trying to have a shower. You can feel great that it’s cleaner than it’s probably been since you bought it!

Your mission for the Stash and Dash space is to spend 5 minutes finding anything for the charity shop - those usable things that you don’t need or love anymore.

Zone 3: Mission #3 Wednesday
Check medicine cabinets. Throw out empties and take out of date/ no longer needed meds back to a pharmacy. As you pick things up, quickly wipe the shelf underneath. No need to get everything all out at the same time.

For the stash and dash room, spend 5 minutes returning waifs and strays to their rightful home. You know what’s happened: someone’s coming over so you quickly chuck everything you can see in a corner and then it ends up languishing there permanently. Who knows what delights you’ll find today?

Zone 3: Mission #4 Thursday
Shine you bathroom sink, taps and surfaces. Use whatever bathroom cleaner you favour and get these areas really sparkling today.

A repeat Stash and Dash: look again for recycling or rubbish. As you’ve peeled back one layer earlier in the week, more may have been revealed. If not move to another room.

Zone 3: Mission #5 Friday
The final day of zone 3! Mop that bathroom floor. However you choose, either an actual mop or on hands and knees with a cloth, just some lovely hot soapy water and get into all those edges and corners. You’ll feel great when it’s done, and it won’t take long because bathrooms are rarely cavernous.

In your Stash and Dash space do a 27 fling boogie in the space. This is the first mention of the 27 fling boogie - I’m not sure if it will come up as a babystep. Anyway, just zoom around grabbing 27 things to throw away, give away or put away! This week we’ve found how a quick 5 minute stash and dash every day can really make a difference.

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Alwaysgrowing · Yesterday 13:18

Ta da
Some of my morning routine.
Packed bags for today + snacks
Bedding in washing machine. (DD enthusiasticly striped her own bed, allthough was stroppy about hair/shoes and carrying her bag and coat)
School run/excessise.
Hung up bedding.

I thought I hadn't done much as in my new time I had a bath, ate, walked the very slow, elderly dog, which were not on my list. I also did 15 minutes tidying kitchen and changing bins. I've actually done a lot.

I have not: Hoovered, kids have scattered musli, or Clean windows or car (it's gross).

Having lunch then heading out. I plan on restarting some sort of evening routine.

mixedpeel · Yesterday 13:42

@ExpertlyDecluttering I have just spend a very peaceful hour tidying my potting shed with the radio on

This has to be the most Renew Your Spirit thing I’ve ever read. I don’t even have a potting shed but my spirit starting renewing itself when I read your message yesterday morning!

@Alwaysgrowing I’m sorry you didn’t have a great day yesterday. I hope picking up bits and bobs from Flylady will help you feel better about your contribution to the housework. It would be unfair of me to jump to being too negative about your DH from a short post by you, but it does sound like he could do with a bit more consideration of how you ‘tick’ rather than just implying you’re doing things wrong. He also needs to bear in mind you’re pregnant right now so you’re even more likely to have days when everything just gets Too Much and you need to step back as you did yesterday. Congrats on managing this without falling out with him. Also glad you found the bump belt in time to make use of it! Let’s hope we all come across some misplaced items during our Stash and Dash missions this week.

@PeonyBulb wow the tent is packed away! Much like the hamster I felt it was part of the thread. Ah well, I will treat it as symbolising how we are all moving on and getting stuff done.

@Frumpyunicorn it’s good to know you are managing to keep previously cleared areas clear. This gives me hope for my house too. And I definitely didn’t post much in last month’s thread. There are no expectations about post counts here!

My weekend Ta Das are mostly food based as we had my sis-in-law over, postponed from last weekend. I made vegan shortbread and flapjack, but was most pleased with a really tasty vegan sponge cake which I’ll definitely bake again for any vegan friends or family. The website it’s on was recommended on a thread I had in Chat, so it’s kind of influenced by me being on mumsnet more thanks to this thread. Funny how things work out.

This week I absolutely must make a start on the cross stitch birthday card.

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HedgehogNotes · Yesterday 13:45

Well, we are back home now after a very nice weekend away and a very long car journey yesterday. Absolutely shattered and today, DD has set off on a school residential trip. I'm all in a muddle with bags to be unpacked and no food in the house.

So tonight plan is:
Food shop
Get DH to cook
Unpack

And then we are going to make the most of our child free evening to play a board game we've been wanting to try out for months and share a bottle of prosecco that was meant for our anniversary a couple of weeks ago. Really ready for some easy relaxation after a busy social weekend.

mixedpeel · Yesterday 17:19

Flylady’s musing today is a good one for those of us who still need a kick up the bum when it comes to decluttering. I had quite a ruthless clearout a few weeks ago, but there are still things I am yet to decide on. There are also a few very recent Stash and Dash piles which I shoved out of sight before our weekend visitor got here…so I’ll work on those this week for sure. https://flylady.net/morning-musing/the-machine-is-eating-you-alive

The Machine is Eating You Alive

Dear Friends, Here is my thought for the day. Our homes are like a big machine. When everything is running smoothly, we are fine and then all of a sudden a monkey wrench gets thrown into the gears and the machine starts to eat us alive! YOUR HOME AND...

https://flylady.net/morning-musing/the-machine-is-eating-you-alive

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