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Fledglings Remember to FLY through November...

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BlueEyeshadow · 30/10/2012 22:25

If your house is a mess and you are strugging with C.H.A.O.S. (can't have anyone over syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (something that undermines family fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of chat, support and wine along the way.

This little-and-often system is designed so that you can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in weekly designated zones of the house; defining and minimising housework - which in theory should leave you with more time to do other more interesting things instead! At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling when you are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once. No problem if you miss a day or two; just jump right back in and it will all come around next month again anyway!

We advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be inundated! All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

  • start or repeat baby steps
  • repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone
  • reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

[And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.]

More info here on getting started and Flying lessons. Here's the launch pad for more experienced fledglings. Don't be put off by the barf-tastic language of the site - the underlying system is sound (and you may discover a few of our subversions of the vocabularly along the way).

Many thanks to SC for leading the thread through October (and for such a good OP, which I've blatantly cut and pasted) - Thanks - and I'll post the first babysteps and mission tomorrow evening.

All welcome!!

OP posts:
madwomanintheattic · 08/11/2012 23:27

Aw, bless you. I had a week like that myself last week, after another couple of holding it together. Ds had his psych appt yesterday, which seems to have settled him again, but we have a long weekend now, which is a mixed blessing... And when they go back to school on tues, I have a meeting with his ct and learning support, as he is just not coping it all with organization and planning on any level.

Tis a rollercoaster indeed, sometimes you just have to hang on as it's impossible to steer the damn thing.

Sleep is an excellent place to start x

castlelough · 09/11/2012 08:44

Oh dear it seems I am a day late for SC's delicious breakfast (must have fallen back to sleep Blush) Sad

Not a great week for me overall.
Did dome meal planning yesterday and a 2-week grocery shop. First time trying that out - almost fainted when I went to pay, went WAY over Blush. The Christmas cake ingredients pushed the bill up more than I expected!
Darn! Now I really must attempt to bake it this year

Morning to everyone! Grin

GossipWitch · 09/11/2012 11:11

no more decorating for me today!!

I seriously need to clean house, ds1 is only managing to cope barely at home because he has one focus and that is the computer. At school however is a completely different story, he has a disruptive child in his class who is also struggling with coping and is kicking off nearly everyday at school and as they are fairly similar in temperament, ds1 is bearing the brunt of his outbursts, and unfortunately fighting back, so much so that I had a family liaison officer ring me yesterday and wants a meeting with me on Tuesday, ds1 is also stressing about my driving test, and the decorating issue, which he has mentioned to the family liaison officer, so I really need to get the house in order for his sake.

The other 2 are fine, well apart from touching wet paint when we have told them its wet before hand.

laurenamium · 09/11/2012 11:56

Hi all! Sorry I went AWOL yesterday! I had a busy and trying day with mindees and then date night so didnt get around to posting! Will post yesterday's ta da and today's to do...then ill catch up on the thread Smile

Yesterday's ta da:
Washed kitchen floor
Cleaned all countertops
Routines
Walked dogs
Picked up dog poo
School run X 2
DD and mindee to playgroup
Kitchen hotspot

Today's to do:
School runs- 1 down 1 to go
Walk dogs
DD and mindee to playgroup
Show friend (also a childminder) how I do my learning journeys
Visit friend for baby cuddles
Kitchen hotspot- already! Blush
book MOT
Book car valet
Routines
Today's mission- what is it!
Sweep kitchen floor- dog food Angry
Pay council tax
File paperwork
Prepare activities for next week

BBL with a catch up!

BitchyDragons · 09/11/2012 12:04

So today i have not a lot this morning. but having a serious think about it whilst doing it. I need to reduce the reduce-able stress. And i am going to have to admit defeat and give up something I love but has become far too stressful.

However, as it is now lunch time and I haven't started the project that is needed to be finished by tomo morning I best get cracking with it.

GossipWitch · 09/11/2012 12:42

sweating like a pig but the lounge is now spotless :) going to have a quick break then crack on with the hall way not looking forward to it as it has become a dumping ground for crap however have had a few space saving ideas regarding dumping ground, it means I will have to move furniture about and possibly put more in the dumping ground of a bedroom.

madwomanintheattic · 09/11/2012 16:43

It doesn't have to be forever, bitchy? Think on it over the weekend? Sometimes a reevaluation is necessary, if unwanted.

Kitchen looks reasonable.

I have more dog hair in drifts inside my house than there is snow outside. (Actually that is a complete lie, but it feels that way)

Next job - get rid of the dog drifts. Yuk.

I'm waiting in for a parcel, so I'm filling time with those cheeky 15 minute bursts of whatever. It's very virtuous, and stops me pacing. Mostly...

BitchyDragons · 09/11/2012 17:21

Did your parcel arrive yet Madwoman?

Thinking is on going. Need to get on with more project stuff. CBA is a big problem today.

madwomanintheattic · 09/11/2012 17:37

Nope.

Am doing bursts of housework and bursts of mn. I need to turn the wee bleeps thing off though, as if I get a message it distracts me. Grin I can't ignore a ringing telephone, either. Grin

I'm also trying to work out wtaf goes on with fb on an iPad, as I don't think I've got it set up right. I barely go on fb anyway (just to check dd1 Wink) but I can't work the damn thing at all on this. Might have to fire up the laptop.

For flying purposes, let it be known that I am going to wash the glass bits from the chandelier thingy today. (That sounds v grand - it isn't. They are just glass lantern covers for the bulbs, no actual bling at all) (dh wouldn't let me)

And the grandly named 'chandelier' is just a low overhead thingy for the dining table. Hence you can see the glass bits are reaaaally dusty...

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 09/11/2012 17:58

Are you using a FB App Mad or just browsing in Safari? I am using the Facebook app and it is fine but the reviews for the latest upgrade of it don't look great so I am hanging back. DH just uses is it in Safari and that works fine.

madwomanintheattic · 09/11/2012 18:14

Goodness only knows. I have an icon, and thought I had downloaded the app, but I keep getting a random message about linking the iPad to my fb account... But if I click on the icon, it is my Facebook account... But not apparently all of it. It just looks... Different! And if I agree to link it to my iPad, it all switches sideways, as though it's a phone app.

I'll try again later. I had a few ishoos yesterday which were apparently linked to the new OS update, so maybe it will sort itself out.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 09/11/2012 18:36

I have avoided the OS update for now too, usually takes them a few weeks to sort out all the glitches.

BlueEyeshadow · 09/11/2012 22:42

Evening all! Quiet day on here, today.

My ta-da list is fairly short, but I have:
Done the laundry
Done some work
Spent the whole afternoon between school run and cooking tea walking up to Sainsbo's for some milk and back (we did pop into the café while we were there...)
Cooked tea
Cleaned up the quinoa explosion in the kitchen
Mended/patched 4 pairs of small trousers

So not too bad.

Hope your parcel arrived and you got FB tamed, madwoman.

Hope you can reduce stress levels Bitchy and Gossip.

No missions tomorrow because it's Family Fun Day in Fat Fairyland.

Babystep 10 is the Power of 15 Minutes! - another good one.

Hope you all have lovely weekends. Night night.

OP posts:
mumat39 · 09/11/2012 23:51

Hello.

I've just found this thread after searching for how to cope with housework and a mountain of multiplying toys and general mess, and piles of unopened mail and paperwork stuffed into any spare space possible.

I'm a stay at home mum so have no excuse other than the fact that i'm maybe lazy, but I'd much rather surf on the web or play with my kids, so need some basic advice on how to start getting a grip with the evil that is housework.

Is it too late for me to follow this thread? Should I wait for next month to start and then follow this thread from the start? I think I'm looking for excuses, as usual, to not start.

Thanks in advance.

PositiveAttitude · 10/11/2012 02:03

Welcome Mumat39 Just jump straight in with us. Smile We are all full of excuses, too!!

Cleaner issue has not been resolved!! I was stupidly upset yesterday after she had been. I so want to help this family, but I had to come home and do most of the jobs I had put on her list as they had not been touched. We are talking most basic things. She has not noticed the inch thick dust on the TV unit. She wiped the tops of the toilet, but didn't lift the lid, clean the seat, clean under the seat or even inside the loo. I am now getting the list written out in Khmer for her as a last chance. If this does not work, then I am going to have the embarrassment of telling her to leave, but I hope we don't lose our driver (her son-in-law) because of this as he is fantastic and I so want to help him and his family!!) Grrrrr!!

On a better note we went and measured up our new house yesterday and it is just lovely. The moving date has been moved a little, but I just want to move in TODAY!! (I have never been a patient person!! 5 weeks today we can move in) At the moment we do not have one stick of furniture, no plates, cutlery etc. Just the clothes that we have here, that's all, and absolutely no money to get anything, but hey ho we will have a lovely roof over our heads, so we will be grateful for that!!! Grin

I need to do loads of computer work now, so need to sign off MN. (I also need to catch up with some emails which have been very lacking recently, )

Have a good weekend everyone.

Engelsemama · 10/11/2012 08:17

I haven't caught up with the thread Blush

Will jump in here if you don't mind.

Am struggling a bit with combining Flying with NaNo and a surge in marking and planning at school. Plus, heading to UK for a wedding at the end of next week.

Feeling snowed under. Sad And then feeling silly that I'm feeling snowed under when compared to so many othersd I really have nothing to complain about.

Spent yesterday morning doing a home bleurgh to get everything in order so I can focus on work/writing this weekend - not that you'd knwo it by looking at the house now.

Really would lvoe to get some "stuff" sorted this weekend with DH - lots of things that need to go up in loft that are cluttering up hallways. Some things in the garden need tidying up/putting away for winter.

I need to start operating a 15 minute rule to get anything done (but first heading into town to look at results of DS photography session.

Wishing you all happy flying family fun days!

Engelsemama · 10/11/2012 08:20

And have just noticed the baby step for today - the power of 15 minutes!

Must be fate!

PositiveAttitude · 10/11/2012 09:00

OH $%""*7&%%? I have a garden full of lovely local children playing with DS and I have just found a snake. I am trying to keep calm, but I fear it is not working!!!!
I HATE SNAKES

laurenamium · 10/11/2012 09:20

Hi all! I didn't make it back yesterday Blush and this weekend or today at least is family time so not much flying. I will pop on tomorrow with body clutter update, and be back Monday back to normal!

Trazzletoes · 10/11/2012 09:26

Castle you aren't in West Yorks are you?

Trazzletoes · 10/11/2012 09:26

Sorry, not boasting... I have a Kitchen Aid... You can borrow!

strictlycaballine · 10/11/2012 10:28

Morning all. V impressed by those of you who have all their Christmas/cake pudding ingreds at the ready and/or are actually baking.

[starts prepping vegetarian risotto dish in naughty corner especially for Justgettingonwithit Smile]

Sorry have been awol. My sister is visiting for follow-up check after the op she had here recently (which took up a good half of yesterday - all fine thankfully) and she is staying on for the weekend. Needless to say it took a fair bit of effort and swearing to get the house back in vaguely decent order for her arrival and luckily she is (a) very messy herself (b) extremely short sighted Grin Sat up very late last night/early this morning having a good natter.

And treble arf at semen/cement and whores/horse confusion!! Grin Grin Grin Reminds me of time I mixed up "se baisser" (I was talking about back pain when I bent over) with similar sounding word with different meaning (I'm sure you can guess!!) in front of a group of Roman Catholic mothers Blush Grin

A very warm welcome to Shutitwierdo and Mumat39¨!

Mumat39 Strictly speaking, Flylady advises just "jumping in wherever we are at" or of course you can wait until the beginning of next month when it all starts again - whatever suits you best. But as we are only on day 9, and there are lots of 'consolidating days' and baby-steps that you can ignore in baby steps 1-9, you could just review them and start doing the key ones: shining sink, room rescue, picking out clothes night before, hot spots and maybe starting a cj (although that can wait really). More info here on getting started and more specifically here and here on baby-steps. Good luck!

A very warm welcome back to Lookingforinspiration!

Arf at your v. healthy quinoa explosion Blue!

Madwoman 'ark at you polishing your chandeliers Wink Grin!! We have some too actually but no glass bits - they are circa 1910 brass numbers that came with the house and hang wonkily in the sitting room. Just waiting for one of them to fall out of cracked plaster in ceiling and drop on a guest's head.

Feel exactly like Engels atm - in fact could have written her post. Feeling overwhelmed by everything, then feeling pathetic for feeling that way when compared to others my life is pretty easy really (and Engels I don't have excuse of the demanding job that you have so don't be too hard on yourself)

Eek at snake PA! Um, are they poisonous at all in your neck of the woods? Hope not!! V. exciting about your new house!! Hope cleaning lady and furnishing situations resolved soon.

Sorry you are going through particularly tough patch Bitchy and are thinking of giving up something you love (think long and hard about that one - we all need something in our lives to keep us sane and chilled - not just for our own sakes either) Keep strong and hope no lasting ill effects from ds concussionx

Gossip good luck with tackling cluttered hallway! And hope school/family meeting resolves school situation happily for your ds1.

Swan Sorry to hear about your extended family news which must be hard for everyone.

Dizzy glad to hear your dd improving and don't feel badly about dairy stuff - parenthood involves steep learning curve - I for one continually have to keep putting on crampons and guide ropes!! Quilt sounds lovely btw!

Feetheart great to hear your ds had a fab birthday and hope your dd OK x

Toffee oh dear/arf about saints and mortification!! Not surprised your ds1 is baffled!!

Whoknows you sound as though you are feeling a bit stronger Smile

Enthusiastic wing flaps to Trazzles Lauren Whoknows Castlelough MrsHoarder Systemsaddict Ellie Nightshade Notquiteperfect Honu Carpe Maggie Consils CaptainHoratio Trumpalot Paneer Shifty Issima Sowornout and anyone I've missed!

Dh is currently squiring dsis around his favourite cheese shops which he has ranked in order of preference (she is foodie too thankfully) - a tour which may take some time Grin - and in the meantime, I am meant to be forcing encouraging dd to do her hwk while they are out so had better prize her away from her DS and get to it. Have a good w/e everyone!

strictlycaballine · 10/11/2012 10:29

xpost

Yay Trazzles!! 'Ark at you and your posh kitchen appliances Grin Wink

Was just about to pop over to your thread before logging out ... x

strictlycaballine · 10/11/2012 10:33

oops - sorry - shd have read ...

to prise away

and grabbing guide ropes

GossipWitch · 10/11/2012 12:30

Hallway wasn't too bad! I just swept everything in a pile, and picked out the toys and binned the rest, ds1 came in and thanked me for it he was calmer last night, which really proves my theory of chaotic home=chaotic kids,
Dp let me sleep in til 12!! so it means all my plans for today have been postpone by a few hours now. However I did sort out all my correspondence, and all of my paper work and cannot believe how much I need to shred, but the bills and things are all in order so I'm happy. well i best get on and tackle this mad house and try and make it look good :)