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Didn't think this was going to be forever.

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sonlypuppyfat · 03/04/2014 23:17

Took DD9 out of school as she was being bullied it was my intention to rebuild her confidence work on her reading and writing and then start her in a new school September but now DH is insisting on it being for years, what do I do.

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TheNightIsDark · 03/04/2014 23:18

Is it you or DP at home teaching her?

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sonlypuppyfat · 03/04/2014 23:23

It's me I've always been a SAHM I'm really loving it but I thought it was temporary.

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TheNightIsDark · 03/04/2014 23:34

Would you be willing to give it another year? If you keep viewing it as temporary would that help? I'd love to HE but wouldn't have the patience so I'm in awe of anyone who manages it.

How does your DD feel about it? If it's you at home doing it then tbh I feel it's more your decision than your DPs.

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sonlypuppyfat · 03/04/2014 23:36

I do think she likes it she has brothers and sisters who are at school but when I take her to our little local park at lunch time she just looks a bit lonely playing .

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TheNightIsDark · 03/04/2014 23:37

How old is she? I think I've seen people mention local HE groups. Are there any in your area?

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sonlypuppyfat · 03/04/2014 23:41

She's 9 I'm quite new to it all so I shall look for groups to join.

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TheNightIsDark · 03/04/2014 23:43

Sorry just saw you had her age in the OP

Facebook might have some local groups?

Good luck with it all.

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sonlypuppyfat · 03/04/2014 23:46

Thank you. I think I will look at Facebook.

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Northernlurker · 03/04/2014 23:48

If you are happy and she is happy then just consider this is what you're doing 'for now' and leave it at that.

Saracen · 04/04/2014 00:56

I think it is too soon for anyone in your family to know how long home education will suit all of you. If you are loving it at the moment, that is good enough.

Remind your dh that the original plan was for home ed to be temporary and that all of you will need to see how it is going later on in order to decide whether to carry on with it beyond autumn. If you are the one who is actually doing the home education on a daily basis, I don't think he is in a position to dictate to you about whether you continue with it.

I do think it's likely that you'll continue to enjoy it anyhow, it's just the principle...

Velvetbee · 04/04/2014 12:19

Just see how it goes. It's great that you're enjoying it and one year will easily slip into another without you noticing if you're both happy.
I'd second meeting up with some local home eddies.
And DH doesn't get to insist since he's not doing the work...

bauhausfan · 04/04/2014 19:41

You definitely need to join groups and make contacts/friends. My two have a great life - quite structured with all their groups and play dates etc otherwise I think it'd be lonely for them and me.

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sonlypuppyfat · 04/04/2014 20:16

Bauhausfan how old are your children? I think I'm also a bit nervous of her getting out of the habit of school.

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itsbetterthanabox · 04/04/2014 20:23

It should be the choice of the child and the person teaching. Nothing to do with your husband.
A different school that you think age will fit better into would be good.

bauhausfan · 04/04/2014 20:51

My two are 4 and 8. The 4 year old has never been to school and I doubt I'll ever want to send him.

morethanpotatoprints · 06/04/2014 21:54

Hello OP

I know you said your dd was bullied at school but were there any friends she kept in touch with?
My dd is 10 and sometimes she says she is lonely, but this is usually during the day when her friends are at school and I think you notice it more then even if they have a good social life.
Does your dd belong to Brownies, or any other activities?
Also, you say she looks lonely, has she told you she feels like this?
She could be really happy, and if like my dd, misses some friends but doesn't want to go back.
Ask her how she feels, but agree with others it isn't your dh decision if you don't want to H.ed anymore.

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sonlypuppyfat · 06/04/2014 22:05

No she doesn't belong to any organizations I've asked her if she wants to join girls brigade etc. She goes to Sunday School and other church play groups, they watch films play games etc it's nothing really heavy just fun stuff. Perhaps it's me who thinks she looks lonely she says she's happy but perhaps I'm just looking for stuff.

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Phizzimum · 07/04/2014 08:44

Please don't take this the wrong way, but is it you that's lonely? When I started home educating I went through a stage of feeling quite isolated. When we started meeting up with other home ed families I benefited as much as the children if not more!

Lots of people just take things a term at a time. Just because you don't want to home ed forever doesn't mean you can't join up with home ed groups.

And don't forget, children grow up quickly - so it won't be forever!

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sonlypuppyfat · 07/04/2014 08:59

Phizz you very well may have hit the nail on the head there.

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morethanpotatoprints · 07/04/2014 14:03

I think it would be a good idea to meet up with H.ed groups too if your dd could handle this.
Our group is very small and we tend not to go anymore, but this is usually because they get together at an inconvenient time for us, and dd does loads of activities with lots of other dc.
She sounds settled and happy with H.ed and even if its not for ever I agree it doesn't stop you getting out and about.

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