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Decorations in the toilet...........

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Dorange · 10/09/2013 12:41

My husband insists in having some stuff pinned on a board behind the toilet door....(photos, post cards, other currency money and random stuff) it's truly horrendous.
I cringe everytime I used the toilet and I pray for visitors not want to use it.
I tried to take it away once and he got really offended as he thinks this is a fucking masterpiece.

What do
I do? LTB or threat with divorce and see if he parts with it?

Or any ideas of something I can replace it with?
I've been thinking about something for months but can't think of anything....

Heeeeeelp

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KatoPotato · 10/09/2013 12:44

Think of the poo particals!

ShatnersBassoon · 10/09/2013 12:45

Burn it.

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Dorange · 10/09/2013 13:33

but if I burn it he will do it again

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sarascompact · 10/09/2013 13:35

"Or any ideas of something I can replace it with?"

Your divorce certificate? Grin

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Dorange · 10/09/2013 13:39

ha ha ha good idea!!!!

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mummaemma · 10/09/2013 14:35

why does he feel he has to look at this stuff?? men eh no idea.

I would definately suggest it gets moved. dont think anything needs to be on the back of the door. keep it simple.

poocatcherchampion · 11/09/2013 13:59

I think it sounds fine and it is after all only the loo and his house too. compromise, make sure guests know its his and fight your battles in the more important parts of the house Grin.

Reastie · 12/09/2013 14:49

Can you put it in a covered frame so it stays clean and looks a bit more....erm......like it's a piece of art something like this

HeyJudith · 12/09/2013 14:54

Urrrgh. That sounds horrid. I am truly grateful I have a DH who gives me full reign over the household decoration choices.

I could not have this in the toilet. It's not toilet appropriate, it sounds more like a kitchen noticeboard than a toilet one. What you need to do is put your foot down and say that you should jointly choose something to go in there, because you really can't stand it. Enough nagging will wear him down :)

HeyJudith · 12/09/2013 14:58

Ideas to replace it with: A box frame with shells and sand (or whatever that is at least water themed/bathroom appropriate) in it, sounds like your DH likes 3D art so go with that :).

It also sounds like as well as 3D art he likes the fun,peculiar and the surprise element, so how about a box frame with carefully placed small models of (say) sharks/octopus/jellyfish type things (Schleich models)

You could do a medium square box frame and place 9 items in (using sticky pads) in a noughts and crosses type 3x3 lineup. :)

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Dorange · 12/09/2013 20:51

Hi, yes it looks like a kitchen board
I bought a photo mural, that is basically like a big sticker the size of a door. I wont link exactly the one I bought here but it is simile to this:
Photomural
He agreed to replace and said he didn't know I didn't like it
He said he got offended when I took it down because I just did it, without discussing 1st....

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Catypillar · 12/09/2013 20:54

DH used to like having a basket of shells in the bathroom, he said it helped him to concentrate when he was having a poo. Hmm

I think they disappeared when we moved. I daren't ask about the state of DH's bowels in case he insists that we get another set of shells.

Rakoshi · 12/09/2013 20:54

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bristol_stool_scale

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Dorange · 12/09/2013 21:19

?

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Rakoshi · 12/09/2013 21:43

You can get the stool sample chart as a full poster sized piece of art. Very educational.

HeyJudith · 12/09/2013 22:47

Well, Dorange, you should respond by saying you got offended when he just put it up, because he just did, without asking first.... works both ways!

I don't know why, but the thought of loose bits of paper and tickets on a noticeboard, strikes me as.. .unhygienic.. I know it's not but I like toilets (particularly ones which are also used by visitors) to be free from clutter, clinical and easy to clean as possible.

So, you don't fancy Rakoshi's stool sample chart in your water closet? I think it's perfectly charming.

HeyJudith · 12/09/2013 22:52

PS Going into the deeper psychological element (yes, there is one) why does your DH feel the need to display highlights of his/your life? All the items (photos, currency, post cards) are really quite personal and provide snippets and clues as to what you do, where you have been, who has bothered to write you a post card etc. He has then placed this noticeboard where it really can't be ignored. Who's he showing off to? Who is he trying to impress (because it is a form of showing off - it's.. contrived, not like a kitchen noticeboard where everything and anything gets pinned up in a hurry).

Why would someone contrive to present snippets of their life in a toilet? Confused

It's not, um, normal. Especially for, um. a man. It's too Hyacinth Bucket (in a sense).

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Dorange · 13/09/2013 07:59

how about my replacing idea? honest thoughts?

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HeyJudith · 13/09/2013 13:31

Honestly? Are you sure?

Ok. It's totally urrgh and I think I would prefer to look at the noticeboard.

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Dorange · 13/09/2013 21:45

ha

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Dorange · 13/09/2013 21:49

well that one is not the one I bought. The one I bought is different. But I mean the idea of a photomural, not exactly that particular pattern.

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HeyJudith · 13/09/2013 22:13

Ye-ah. I'm not sold on photomurals... but each to their own :) I 'm pretty sure I have trinkets around that you wouldn't find decoratively pleasing :)

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Dorange · 13/09/2013 22:19

I like them Smile
and I guarantee you would rather look at my photomural than his board...
Your psychological analyse is interesting, I have never thought that way...
Where do I discover more?

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Dorange · 13/09/2013 22:45

oh I am not british so just went to google Hyacinth Bucket.
Well H sure was born working class and still has a very much working class job. He didn't do well at school, he isn't interested in literature/arts, etc, and he doesn't even like socialising or doing sports so he is definitely not pretentious or social ladder climber like Hyacinth. I wish he was a bit more ambitious TBH. Too laid back and content.
But probably happier than me Blush
Anyway, his board in the toilet might just be a reflect of his confidence lacking/shyness...

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HeyJudith · 13/09/2013 23:10

Interesting. I would have thought a man who cares to display life tokens to be more showing-off, but, the other end of the scale is lack of confidence, so possibly, his noticeboard is his subtle way of conveying things he wants people to know about, indirectly. I have never ever met any man who would even care about any kind of decorative element in a toilet, let alone create such a personal display for one :)

Especially if he is not arty, social or academic, because creating a noticeboard like that hints to hidden depths of artistic nature and social butterfly. Maybe the noticeboard represents what he is or wants to be underneath? (and that's why he was so touchy about taking it down?)

My friend has all sorts of personal photos and trinkets and momentoes plastered all over her downstairs (visitors) loo. Almost every wall surface covered. Lots to look at when sitting down in there :) She is a total extrovert however :)

Throw your DH a house party for his next birthday... sounds like he would secretly love it!