Dc1 and dc2 have student loans as we did at university and most of my friends did. I think there was one girl whose parents paid for everything and then bought her a flat at the end of university but she was the only one. We visit them, take them out for dinner and do a food shop. I've found out a relative has saved enough money for their children to go to university without having to pay anything and then enough for a house deposit. The dc aren't even teenagers yet. That's not normal is it?